Women And Miscarriage

stephaniemorris26 By stephaniemorris26, 24th Jan 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3lw-823x/
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This is an article about my personal experiences with miscarriage and the cruelty of some people when it comes to the death of a child

Causes of recurrent miscarriage

I have unfortunately suffered 6 miscarriages in the last 8 yrs, Three of which was last year. The doctors have run every test imaginable trying to find out what is wrong with me and keep coming up empty handed. I am a puzzlement to the medical field.
There are many reasons that people suffer recurring miscarriages and many are simple to diagnose and fix.
One of the most common problems is that a woman's body is not producing enough progesterone to keep the placenta attached until it starts making it's own progesterone.
Another reason is any kind of blood disorder. The main one being a disorder called Lupus-anticoagulant. It is NOT lupus!! It is a disorder that causes your blood to be too thick, but at the same time too thin. It is very confusing and will not always show up in tests.
Any kind of auto-immune disorder can also cause this horrible thing to happen.
Whatever the reason, if it can be found it can be treated. My doctor has said that just being able to get pregnant is a good sign and I could possibly, eventually have a child of my own. So no matter what it is or even if they don't find a reason do not give up!!

Experiencing a miscarriage

Now, as I said before, I have had 6 miscarriages in the last eight years, and sometimes I really do believe I should just stop but then in the case of my last miscarriage I made it to 17 weeks(giving me more hope to have a successful pregnancy) before losing my baby. We already knew what it was (a boy) and already had a name for him, Christopher Noah Lee. I went into labor in the middle of the night and rushed to the ER only to be told there was nothing they could find wrong and to see my doctor the next morning. After 10 hrs of labor I finally got in to see my doctor who did a sonogram and said everything was fine and give me medicine trying to stop the contractions, which didn’t work. After 12 hrs of labor I finally gave birth to a little baby boy who died immediately after he was born. It was the most horrible and traumatic experience I have ever had in my life, and was quite a bit worse than previous miscarriages I had had due to the fact I was so far along. Most miscarriages are not so physically taxing and actually happen rather quick, but in the case of my last one I was not so lucky.

People's ignorance

Now for someone to tell me to get over something like this has to be one of the cruelest things a person can say. People need to think before they speak and put their self in someone else’s shoes before they open their mouth. Miscarriage is a horrifying experience for anyone that has been through it and unless you have been through it you have no clue of the pain and loss a person feels. So it just goes back to something we were all taught as kids ” If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say nothing at all”!!!! There is nothing that I hate more than people telling me I should just get over it. Even other women will say this to you!! People don’t see miscarriage for what it really is, which is the loss of a child. Whether you hold them or not it is still your baby and a mother’s attachment begins from the moment she knows she is pregnant.
All I can hope to do by sharing my experiences is maybe educate some of these people, and help them understand that in any case the death of a child is the death of a child. There is no pain in this world greater, and the pain is the same for everyone! A piece of you dies and you can never get that piece back.

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Auto Immune Disorders, Babies, Death, Devastation, Doctors, Feelings, Health, Hospitals, Labor, Loss, Lupus-Anticoagulant, Pain, Pregnancy, Progesterone, Women Miscarriage

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author avatar stephaniemorris26
I am a stay at home mother from beautiful North Alabama. I have 3 wonderful children.12 yr old twin girls and my 2 yr old niece.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
24th Jan 2012 (#)

What the hell can I say to this article? There really isn't anything that I can say. I can't say that I know how you feel, because there is no way that I could possibly know how you feel. I am not a woman and have never experienced anything even remotely as traumatic as losing a baby All I can say is that reading this leaves me feeling helpless in wanting to say or do something to offer you some sort of comfort.

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author avatar stephaniemorris26
24th Jan 2012 (#)

Well thank you Jerry. It is something I have learned to deal with and accept. Many women have the same problem and have had it happen up to 10 times before they successfully carry a baby to term.

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author avatar Songbird B
25th Jan 2012 (#)

Stephanie, reading through this brought tears to my eyes because no woman should have to face this as many times as you have...This is such a personal share, and must have been painful to write..You are a brave lady my friend..

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author avatar stephaniemorris26
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Thank you @Songbird. Writing actually helps me deal with things, and it is worth a little pain if I help someone else going through the same thing.

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author avatar Delicia Powers
26th Jan 2012 (#)

Profound wisdom through this life's pain thank you for this brave article......

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author avatar Melissa Dawn
10th Feb 2012 (#)

Stephanie, as my mom says, people need to 'engage brain before operating mouth'. Trying to break people down is just a cover up for their own weakness. That said my friend have you tried acupuncture? I had a friend with a similar problem and eventually with the help of a fertility acupuncturist she did carry to term.

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