Who You Marry is How Your Life Becomes

Bill Harbin Jr By Bill Harbin Jr, 4th Jun 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Before you marry it might be wise to read and head the information given here. These true life tips can help you avoid problems in your relationship.

Who You Marry is How Your Life Becomes

A counselor made my life much better when she said the words in the title above. I was considering a marriage that had red flags waving in my face. Our values and beliefs were so different. When I looked at how my life would become I escaped the relationship and found my soul mate. Here are some tips that I discovered that may benefit you.

Get Counseling Before Marriage

Love is blind and marriage is an eye opener. Discover what problems you might encounter before you make a life investment in marriage. Our church had a great pre-marriage counseling plan. For a nominal fee we took compatibility tests. Sections of the test included family values, beliefs, and financial questions, plus a couple others. The minister reviewed our scores before planning the wedding.

We scored 100% the same on the family values test. Other parts of the testing showed great compatibility also. The money test was our biggest difference. We maintain separate checking accounts because of this. This gives us the freedom not to nag or control each other about small purchases. This testing earned us a degree in happiness.

Good Decision

“Is that your wife?” That question was asked me by a gas station cashier while we were traveling. As I nodded yes, he gave me thumbs up and said “Good decision!” It is so nice to have a stranger confirm your marriage decision, even though my wife’s beauty created the compliment. The really good decision made was choosing a mate based on values and beliefs and not just love and beauty.

If Bonny and Clyde from the robbery movie had come into that store, then who you marry is how your life becomes has a whole new meaning. Marry a criminal and your life makes a bad turn. The decision to marry a politician removes privacy from your life. A marriage with a member of the clergy in it probably could not survive if their partner were an atheist.

Have a Good Life

When we were leaving the breeder’s place with our new puppy, she laid her hand on our dog like a healing minister and said “Have a good life.” How nice it would be if everyone could receive a blessing like that when starting out a new relationship. Problem is humans have to make more decisions than dogs. Rather than just enjoy cuddling and comforts we have the added dimension of establishing values and more purpose in life.

Enjoy romance in your life and cherish love when it happens. Just keep in mind that your life will soar to new heights or fall into terrible low places based on the partner you choose. Your life becomes great when you make the right choice and seek help before you need it. It’s like filling up your car before empty. A great ride with less stress.


Beliefs, Counseling, Good Life, Marriage, Values

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author avatar Bill Harbin Jr
Bill Harbin Jr is a freelance writer that had a book published in addition to hundreds of articles. His practical, down to earth advice can be used to find not only value, but perhaps a better life.

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author avatar Rosemarie Nikki
4th Jun 2014 (#)

The advice from your counselor is very good, however, some people are just opportunists. They see a secure way out, and go for for it whether for the long or short term. If you stick to your values and know what you are willing to compromise in a marriage, then the rest is bliss. The right person will be there for you.


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9th Dec 2014 (#)

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