When Your Child Argues With You

Athena By Athena , 10th May 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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How do you deal with your child when he or she argues with you? Here are tips:

Tips on Ending an Argument with Your Child

As a parent, sometimes it is a challenge to keep your cool and say the right thing during the height of disagreement with your child. Here are suggestions on ending arguments with your child based on suggestions from Lise Motherwell, a psychologist from Brookline, Massachusetts.

DO set limits: “I’m going to say ‘NO’ one more time and then this discussion is over.”

DON’T feel compelled to answer immediately: “I just can’t give you an answer right now. I need some time to think it over. Let’s talk again to night.” (But keep your word and do sit and talk about it later)

DO leave the room if your child won’t stop arguing.

DON’T make obvious power plays by saying, “Because I say so!” You can make the same point in a less provocative way, “This is something for a grown up to decide.”

DO lower the volume. Say “I can’t hear you when you yell and use that tone of voice. I’ll be happy to discuss this when you calm down.”

DON’T label your child by saying, “Stop being such a brat.” Instead, identify specific behaviors: “I need you to stop interrupting me when I’m talking.”

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Children, Communication, Conflict, Disagreement, Family, How To Talk To Children, Parenting

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author avatar Pradeep Kumar B
10th May 2012 (#)

Good tips. Thank you for sharing.

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author avatar vpaulose
10th May 2012 (#)

Good tips. Thank you dear Athena.

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author avatar Buzz
10th May 2012 (#)

Informative page, Kabz. Thank you for sharing.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th May 2012 (#)

Teenagers are tough to handle. I remember telling my son - leave it to me, let me see what best I can do. Other times - these are the issues that you will face, can you face the consequences? I may not be of much help. Thanks Athena for your tips - siva

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