The relationship of a husband and father in building up a home

Bamiseyi By Bamiseyi, 30th Jul 2018 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3uw-mx9o/
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The home is the most important of all earthly institutions and the problems of society, the church, and the nation, if ever solved, must be largely solved in the home.The father is the head of a home, and the character of the home determines the character of the church, the society, and the nation.

The role of a father in building up a home

The home is both a civil and divine institution. The civil and divine law places the husband and father as the head of the home. No teacher sustains a more vital relation to society, no minister to his congregation, no king to his empire, or president to his country, than does the scrupulous father, who does his best to build an ideal home. He is truly serving God and his country, in the highest sense.
The relation between the husband and wife is a partnership affair, they are equal partners. Their rights and privileges are equal, but their part in building the home is not the same. The service of one is as important as the other. Neither can one build a home without the other. Their service is incomparable.
Nature has fitted man mentally and physically for devising means of earning a support for his family. And whatever occupation, calling or profession he may engage in, he should put forth his best effort of which he is capable to produce an income that will support his family decently. But the amount of money if he can furnish his wife, will depend on his earnings. They should both discuss the matter as partners. They both have as much right to the income as the other. They should not spend more than is produced, and if the income is small, both should economize. They should also endeavor to save something each year, even though the income is small. If the income is large, they should be more liberal in the use of it. And the husband has no right to cause his wife to beg him for money, to meet her personal expenses or the expenses of the children because the money is not exclusively his own.
Home building is a partnership in which every member of the home is interested in the money produced. Legally the father may spend his money on his selfish indulgences. But morally, he has no right to spend the home company money in a way that will not benefit each member of the home. For a father to spend a certain amount of money annually on smoke or drink and refuse corresponding amounts to his wife and children to be spent needlessly by them, is as dishonest, as for a member of a firm of a bank to misappropriate the funds of a depositor.
The father is to provide moral support in the home, and for him to build a reputation for honesty, truthfulness, temperance, and virtue and to possess a good character are of more value to his wife and children, as a home builder.
While civil law and God place the father at the head of the home, this does not give him special rights and privileges or constitute him a boss or ruler, but he should so conduct himself that the family will regard him as their protector, supporter, and adviser. He should not swear, tell vulgar stories, and indulge in strong drink unless he is willing for each member of his family to follow his example. As partners in the home, they have the same moral rights as him. He should be to his children a friend, confidant, a companion. He should constantly endeavor to make the children happy. But there are times in the home when his decision must be a law. He must support his family. The law holds him responsible for their support.

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Home Building, Husbands, Relationship

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My name is Michael Ajewole, am a blogger and a writer. My writings are on Health and Relationship and creative writings.

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