The Struggle of Living with a Bipolar Husband
This is the story of how I lived with a bipolar husband for 15 years.
In the Beginning
When I first met my ex-husband, I thought he was the perfect man. But then I was only deluding myself because he was my first: first date, first kiss, first sexual experience. As I look back now after 20 years since we first met when I gt a job at Smith's Food & Drug in Phoenix, Arizona as a courtesy clerk. I remember how my ex used to say that he was "Head Courtesy Clerk" even though no position existed. Our relationship was, and still continues today, to be a love-hate relationship.
We hated each other at first because I didn't put the carts away the way he liked and he yelled at me. Then a few months later, he came up to me while I was listening to KMLE country radio station while I was on a break from work and he was on cart duty pulling in carts into the store.
However, he didn't ask me out until after a store party at Castles 'n' Coasters when my sister urged me to join him and his friends at the party and I refused to join him. A few days later, he asked me to dinner and a movie to which I accepted.
After dating for just a few months, and a trip to Disneyland, courtesy of my mother and sister, who gave us money to go because our birthdays are both in June (2 days apart), my ex proposed and I accepted.
I had a minor falling out with my mother over wedding planning which resulted in me moving out when my ex found an apartment north of where our mothers lived (both our mothers lived about 2 miles from each other when we met as we both lived with our mothers at the time of our meeting). My ex didn't like my mother's opinion that we should save for a wedding and walked out of the International House of Pancakes (IHOP) restaurant we were eating at in a huff.
I moved in with my ex about 2 days before we were married, on August 4, 1995. I foolishly took my ex's side over my mother's, a decision I regret doing to this day. In attendance at our wedding were his mother, his father and step-mother, his two brothers, my sister and (now ex-husband) and their year-old daughter. My mother never attended our wedding.
I did make amends with my mother a few months later, but my ex continued to cause problems between my mother and me, calling her names and making allegations that she was an alcoholic and a drug user. I know now that it was my insecurity which prompted me to side with my ex over my mother and the fact that I allowed him to use me and to this day; my relationship is strained with my mother, due to problems he caused and as well as previous issues that happened before I met him.
COMING: THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF LIVING WITH A BIPOLAR SPOUSE.