The Struggle of Living with a Bipolar Husband

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This is the story of how I lived with a bipolar husband for 15 years.

In the Beginning

When I first met my ex-husband, I thought he was the perfect man. But then I was only deluding myself because he was my first: first date, first kiss, first sexual experience. As I look back now after 20 years since we first met when I gt a job at Smith's Food & Drug in Phoenix, Arizona as a courtesy clerk. I remember how my ex used to say that he was "Head Courtesy Clerk" even though no position existed. Our relationship was, and still continues today, to be a love-hate relationship.

We hated each other at first because I didn't put the carts away the way he liked and he yelled at me. Then a few months later, he came up to me while I was listening to KMLE country radio station while I was on a break from work and he was on cart duty pulling in carts into the store.

However, he didn't ask me out until after a store party at Castles 'n' Coasters when my sister urged me to join him and his friends at the party and I refused to join him. A few days later, he asked me to dinner and a movie to which I accepted.

After dating for just a few months, and a trip to Disneyland, courtesy of my mother and sister, who gave us money to go because our birthdays are both in June (2 days apart), my ex proposed and I accepted.

I had a minor falling out with my mother over wedding planning which resulted in me moving out when my ex found an apartment north of where our mothers lived (both our mothers lived about 2 miles from each other when we met as we both lived with our mothers at the time of our meeting). My ex didn't like my mother's opinion that we should save for a wedding and walked out of the International House of Pancakes (IHOP) restaurant we were eating at in a huff.

I moved in with my ex about 2 days before we were married, on August 4, 1995. I foolishly took my ex's side over my mother's, a decision I regret doing to this day. In attendance at our wedding were his mother, his father and step-mother, his two brothers, my sister and (now ex-husband) and their year-old daughter. My mother never attended our wedding.

I did make amends with my mother a few months later, but my ex continued to cause problems between my mother and me, calling her names and making allegations that she was an alcoholic and a drug user. I know now that it was my insecurity which prompted me to side with my ex over my mother and the fact that I allowed him to use me and to this day; my relationship is strained with my mother, due to problems he caused and as well as previous issues that happened before I met him.

COMING: THE TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF LIVING WITH A BIPOLAR SPOUSE.

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author avatar Retired
5th Jun 2015 (#)

Thankyou for sharing your story. I'm sure it will be a help to others in a similar situation. Be happy.

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9th Oct 2017 (#)

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
6th Jun 2015 (#)

Living with a person with any kind of mental illness is tough.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
6th Jun 2015 (#)

Living with a person with any kind of mental illness is tough.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
6th Jun 2015 (#)

See I have a bipolar husband who is still married to me and his bitch of a mother does him now because of other mental maladies of her own making wherein she refused to let her son return to his wife and child.

Now for you to scream and stomp around, which is so characteristic of a biolpolar episode and I have seen a lot of it, its funny as these people are calm only when they are in a calm life.

None the less, living with them make you like them too. My husband lives with his mother and his brothers. We are still married and I have walked out to build a life on my own for my child.

It makes no difference to me as I have no sex and have no vices either and learnt depending on a human is a weakness so only trust the One Above.

Well, mine was just diagnosed in 2012 after a huge nefarious lifestyle led in Australia which had a lot of sexual disposition which is characteristic of bipolar and his brother interferred in our marriage and refused to let him do a HIV test that I had so asked for resulting in my walking out of my marriage with my kid. After I learnt of his nefarious life with his mother and sister in-laws I decided enough was enough, remain married but stay the hell away from the family and did just that for the sake of my little child who is now thriving in one of the most elite schools overseas.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
6th Jun 2015 (#)

Wasn't Starleena your name earlier??? Damn, have read your previous material. Would never say you are a similar by any degree to me.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jun 2015 (#)

Easy to get into problems but tough to get out of them - the scars remain. Wish you luck - siva

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author avatar Kingwell
6th Jun 2015 (#)

Good share. Relationships are the most difficult part of life. Don't judge yourself for siding with your ex as you felt it was right at the time. Hold no judgement towards yourself, your ex or your mother knowing that we all do what we feel is right at the time. Bless everyone and everything and let it go and see what happens. Blessings.

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author avatar tootsieharveystories
10th Jun 2015 (#)

Thank you CoffeeQueen, Mark Gordon Brown, Lady Aiyanna, Siva, and Kingwell for your comments...God bless you all!

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author avatar Eve Sherrill York
28th Jun 2015 (#)

How sad. My daughter and grand daughter are both bi-polar. I have had some horrible times with them both. Near pushed down stairs, moved out from under, irresponsibility and narcissism. Ugh! She must be a strong woman.

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author avatar tootsieharveystories
11th Jul 2015 (#)

Thank you Eve for your comments..

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author avatar WOGIAM
16th Jul 2015 (#)

You must have gone through so much horror, i am glad you are out of that situation now, i look forward to reading the other parts of your article.

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author avatar tootsieharveystories
17th Jul 2015 (#)

thank you WOGIAM for your comment...

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