The Night I Met Mr. Right

Connie McKinneyStarred Page By Connie McKinney, 22nd Dec 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3x27t7j-/
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We met online first. Then, we met in person on a snowy night ten years ago this month. This is the story of how I met the love of my life.

Online Dating Worked For Me


I found love by clicking the computer mouse.
Ten years ago, I was single and wondering if that would be my permanent status in life. Then, I tried online dating with Match.com. I met a lot of nice guys and went out with some of them. That's as far as most of our interactions went.
Then, I went online one day to the Match.com site and saw that a new guy had "given me a wink." There's an icon you can click to let the person you're interested know that you are interested in them. I read through his profile and came away impressed. So many guys (and women, too) exaggerate their accomplishments online. Some even lie. Not him.
His profile was simple and to the point. Joe worked in a residence for people with disabilities. He was studying for a masters degree in social work. He liked to hike and cross country ski and owned a dog. And he only lived a couple of miles away from me.
We e-mailed back and forth. Then, Joe asked me out. I agreed to meet him.

Our First Date


Snow was falling lightly as I drove to a downtown restaurant to meet Joe for the first time. It was Dec. 23, 2003.
He was standing outside the restaurant as I walked up. A lot of guys would have been inside checking out other girls and flirting at the bar while they waited but not him. I asked if he was Joe. He said he was, and then asked if I was Connie. I said I was, and we went outside.
I remember the Christmas lights twinkling on a large Christmas tree in the corner. The restaurant was crowded. People were talking and laughing and just enjoying the holiday atmosphere.
Joe ordered a steak; I ordered fish. Then, I began telling him my fish puns. For example, on a scale of one to ten, this fish is at least a nine and a half. Joe just laughed.
Then, we went to see the third installment of The Lord of the Rings. We were both Tolkien fanatics. And so it began.

Returning to Where We First Met


After that, our relationship started to grow. Within a month or so, I let my subscription to Match.com expire. So did he.
Those were fun times. We went out to dinner, movies, concerts and even the opera. We walked his dog through the snow on a cold winter afternoon. We cross country skied and left tracks behind us in the snow.
We hiked state parks and admired water falls. We visited his brother and sister in Virginia and Chicago, respectively. He met my family.
Flash forward two years. Joe suggested that we have dinner at the same restaurant that we first met. I joked that we should drive separately, and that he should stand in front of the restaurant and wait for me. He just smiled.
After dinner, we ordered dessert: carrot cake with cream cheese frosting. Then, Joe said he had something to ask me. He pulled out a tiny box. I caught my breath. Could it be? Yes, it was an engagement ring. Of course, I said: yes.
Our waitress came back with the cake, saw the ring, put the cake down and ran off to the back. "The couple at table five just got engaged!" she screamed to her co-workers. She later came back and congratulated us.
Eight months later, we took the plunge. In August, we celebrated our seventh anniversary.

The Ups and Downs of Marriage


Life with Joe has been good so far. Neither of us is perfect. No couple agrees 100 percent of the time. Neither do we. But we don't argue often. We find some way to compromise.
Just like anybody else, we've had our good times and our bad times. For example, both our mothers were diagnosed with uterine cancer. My mother beat her cancer and has been free of it for seven years now. His mother didn't beat it. She died exactly one month to the day before our wedding.
No matter what happens, Joe is there for me, and I'm there for him. I try to be supportive and loving, and he does the same for me.
Dec. 23 will mark ten years since we first met. There's no telling what the next ten years will bring. One thing is for sure; we'll spend every Dec. 23 at that same restaurant where it began for us.

Here are some articles I did on dating:
How to Know If he's the One

How to Have a Great First Date
How to Succeed at Online Dating

Attribution
The cover image came from Morguefile.com
The picture of Joe and me hiking near the falls was taken by a friendly, fellow hiker using my camera. This is my personal photo.
The wedding photo came from our photographer, who gave us written permission to use the photos any way we wanted to.

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Dating, Dating Online, Marriage, Marriages, Relationships

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
22nd Dec 2013 (#)

I met my wife online too, by chance in a chat room for a television show. Sometimes our perfect person is not right around the corner, you have to go far to find them. Congrats on your happiness.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

how absolutely lovely for both you and Mark Connie...wow shows it can happen!!! sharing...my friend, my dear friend, my dear dear friend..

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author avatar Mariah
22nd Dec 2013 (#)

What a lovely heart warming share Connie, so happy for you..congratulations to you and Joe on finding each other..and I wish you many happy years together my friend xx

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author avatar Connie McKinney
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

Thank you Mark, Carolina and Mariah. I am a lucky lady to have found someone as wonderful as Joe.

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author avatar Mariah
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

Joe's Lucky too Connie but I'm sure he knows that

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author avatar Carol
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

I loved reading this Connie, and your happiness shines through the pages. Congratulations to you and Joe

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author avatar Connie McKinney
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

Mariah, what a sweet thing to say. Carol, thanks for your kind thoughts.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

Joyous anniversary!! Many many more!! Thanks so much for sharing with us.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
23rd Dec 2013 (#)

Thanks so much, Phyl. And we are going to the same restaurant for dinner tonight.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
24th Dec 2013 (#)

Wonderful story filled with a lot of feeling the best for you and Joe and my best wishes for a joyous holiday season I embrace you!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Dec 2013 (#)

So happy to read about your happiness Connie. Wishing you many more happy years together with your dear husband. Merry Christmas - siva

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author avatar Zola
24th Dec 2013 (#)

You don't often hear of stories with happy-end. I had tears in my eyes while reading this. Thank you for sharing. Happy anniversary and Happy New Year!

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author avatar Connie McKinney
24th Dec 2013 (#)

Thanks so much for your kind comments, Siva, Zola and Fern. Happy holidays to all.

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
27th Dec 2013 (#)

Good evening, Connie; what a wonderful uplifting story - and it is true. That is what makes it an enchanting true life event. Happy Anniversary - a littel late; I'm catching up on reading today. Shared. Happy New Year - will do it early so I know I've done it. ~Marilyn

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author avatar Connie McKinney
28th Dec 2013 (#)

Thanks so much, Marilyn. I am indeed blessed to have Joe in my life.

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