The Best Time To Debate With Your Kids

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Debate doesn't have to be in school or workplace. Debate means having your instructions spread out to family members. The best time debate at home is dinner time

The Best Time To Debate


I have come to learn that the best time to debate kids or family members is when they have food in their mouth- Kenneth Cole

Very true indeed, which I have to agree 100% of this family quote.

Communication problem

I always had a hard time to talk some sense into my kids brain.

Everything that goes in, goes out immediately. It is difficult to debate with family members when they are born with tons of excuses and reasons to avoid listening to my instructions or nags.

Kids are notorious at home. They always had the nerve to answer back at parents, have lots of non logical excuses and non existent facts that I couldn’t believe that I am hearing them.

If you want to give instructions, make sure that your kids understand them and remember to complete their tasks.

It is best to find the suitable time when they are quiet and seated, not walking around doing their own stuff

Choose the best time


The best time to debate with your family members is dinner time, when they have food stuck in their mouths. It is rude to speak with your mouth full, everyone knows that.

Dinner time is the time when everyone sits down together around the dining table and behave extremely well, as good as angels.

This is the best time to negotiate with them, discuss problems and get them to listen to you instead of bickering with each other, pushing the blame to one another is their bad habit.

When they are eating, with food in their mouth, they either had to agree to your commands or just keep mum until they had finished their meal.

With food in your kids mouth, they can’t rebuke your instructions, answer back (talk back )to your questions, push the blame to one another ( the usual phrase: not me, I didn’t do it ), give lots of excuses ( another usual excuse: I am busy, got work to do, etc )

Debating with your family members


Kids and teens aren’t stupid and they are not naive as you were during your young days.

They are clever, witty and sly ( Do I sound very bad ?) but these are the truth.

Instruct your kids to perform a simple task and they will give you lots of excuses to avoid it.

They are smart.

When you are not looking, your kids will be doing something else that they shouldn’t do ( SMS, playing video games, Facebook , online chatting, etc ).

Once you give out your instructions, they will give you lots of excuses that you can’t disagree ( homework, projects, workload).


When will we ever outsmart our own kids?
Dinner time, when they have food in their mouths, no way to answer back!

Do as I command!

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author avatar Retired
25th Jul 2015 (#)

I am wondering whether you actually understand the meaning of the word "debate"?

Debating is not issuing instructions, it is also explaining why the instructions are being given and listening to any reasons as to why so doing might cause a problem.

Debating is a two-way process of give and take, during which it might well be discovered that there is a better way of solving the problem at hand.

An instruction should never be given in such a way that the person being instructed does not understand the reason behind it. Where children are concerned, they must always be able to sense the fairness of what is being asked of them, because there is nothing a person (of any age) hates more than being treated unfairly.

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author avatar peachpurple
25th Jul 2015 (#)

yes, I understand what you meant. In case you haven't read my article, I had mentioned "discuss, negotiate, understand" my instruction given. Nobody would listen to a tiger mum. I am not a unreasonable mum. Kids wanted to be treated fairly, so do mums. Thanks for your sharing your comments. Appreciated

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
26th Jul 2015 (#)

For me, I try to set an example and let that speak for itself.

The kids are seeing lots hypocrisy around meaning what they are preached to do adults don't follow - siva

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author avatar peachpurple
27th Jul 2015 (#)

thumbs up to you siva, true that kids are seeing a lot and hear a lot

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author avatar WOGIAM
26th Jul 2015 (#)

I enjoyed your article, peachpurple.
I am a mother and teacher so i know how well most of our smart loving children are in the art of giving excuses lol. My kids love their food so much, i do not think they hear when they are at the dinner table.

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author avatar peachpurple
27th Jul 2015 (#)

thanks wogiam, I am a mother of two, a teen and a schoolage. Mine are good at giving excuses but get bombarded by daddy

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
27th Jul 2015 (#)

Having conversation at dinner is good but debates can become fights if people are not fair. A debate is usually something like one person says rodeos are fine, and has reasons, and another person says rodeos are cruel, and has reasons, and both sides talk back and forth making their points.

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author avatar peachpurple
27th Jul 2015 (#)

true, if both side can negotiate well, I am sure there won't fights at all. Problem is kids tend to push the blame to other siblings

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author avatar Retired
27th Jul 2015 (#)

Do schools still have Debating Societies? The grammar school I attended in the 1960s encouraged us to develop proper debating skills in which cases for and against motions were developed and attacked in a civilised and tolerant environment. Learning these skills can be hugely beneficial in private as well as public life.

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author avatar peachpurple
27th Jul 2015 (#)

During my school days which was twenty years ago, only those students with good grades are allowed to participate in debates for English, so majority just sit and listen, no comments

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author avatar Retired
29th Jul 2015 (#)

In all relationships, communication is very vital to make sure that there is harmony.

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author avatar peachpurple
30th Jul 2015 (#)

true angel, both sides have to communicate that is why discussion is vital

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