The Beginning of Being Me

FX777222999 By FX777222999, 27th Mar 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/pgjg87py/
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Usually, when we relive our past experiences, especially about the families, we bring out both the positive and negative feelings the pleasant and unpleasant memories. These pleasant memories energize us and give us a feeling of gratitude. They are never a problem, except when they make us too sentimental and very sad when we reminisce them. However, what is good about this, is, these memories become our source of strength when life gets tough.

The Beginning of Being Me


Sigmund Freud, a noted psychologist once said, “The Child is the Father to the Man.” Freud tells us of the significant contribution of the early years in the development of a person. He believed that the childhood experiences of a man bear a significant impact and influence on his adult life. It is in our early experiences that we establish the foundation of our being as a person. Psychologists, who adhere to this theory of Freud, also recognize that present influences can still change a person.

Our family and childhood experiences are one of the best foundations of our personality. In this regard, our family provides us the roots from which our personhood begins. As we grow through the years, our experiences expand to other relationships outside of the family, which may somehow change our existing view of life. In this process, we redefine ourselves and tap our inner strength to be free and newer dimensions of ourselves.

Usually, when we relive our past experiences, especially about the families, we bring out both the positive and negative feelings the pleasant and unpleasant memories. These pleasant memories energize us and give us a feeling of gratitude. They are never a problem, except when they make us too sentimental and very sad when we reminisce them. However, what is good about this, is, these memories become our source of strength when life gets tough.

Negative feelings are more of a problem, especially when they are not resolved through the years. When these unpleasant memories resurface, we begin to complain about life, the feelings of anger and resentment begin to appear. Some are just buried alive, so they keep on resurfacing, and keep on affecting us. When this happens, we should pay attention to them, and plan ways to resolve them and finally get it resolved. Unless they are resolved, they will haunt us through a lifetime.

The steps in healing these unresolved memories are:

1. We acknowledge these feelings and memories
2. We try our best to understand them
3. We accept them
4. We forgive them

We have to be decisive when we undergo the healing process. Once we are healed, the experience serves as a newfound wisdom, which can lead to learning and growth. It becomes also a challenge for us to consider expressing our gratitude and appreciation for the positive feelings and memories given us. Many times we love golden opportunities to make a person happy simply because we fail to express our appreciation.

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