Teenage Rebellion

SuburbanTarzan By SuburbanTarzan, 22nd Aug 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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“The young always have the same problem - how to rebel and conform at the same time. They have solved this by defying their parents and copying one another.” - Quentin Crisp

Something To Prove

It comes as no surprise that teenagers, at one stage or another, will do some questionable things. They will ignore the most sensible words of advice and will more than likely stand up to those who hold authority over them. This is because they are testing their boundaries as they grow into adults, and figuring out where they fit into this society.

“Telling a teenager the facts of life is like giving a fish a bath.” - Arnold H. Glasgow

Any form of intervention or attempt to discourage their behaviour will only serve to fuel their desire to assert their individuality. They don’t want to hear it because they think they know what’s right for them. And they need to be allowed to make their own mistakes. Humans are not born with the ability to tell between right and wrong. After all, what’s right to one person may not necessarily be so for another.

Only through experience, are we able to learn from consequences and develop a moral compass. Teenagers are just beginning to experience life and the freedom that comes with it. If they’re going to learn right from wrong at all, they need the physical and emotional space to do so.

As tempting as it may be to protect them from their own actions, the lessons that will stick with them for life are ones that are learned the hard way. They don’t want to be protected, as ungrateful as that sounds, because they need to go to that place. That place where they feel as if they are standing on the edge of a cliff. They need to peer over the edge and realise that they don’t want to take another step. They need to go there to come back.

As bystanders in such situations, all we are able to do is offer support and understanding. We may give them some issues to think over but without spoon feeding or nagging. Constantly hounding them will only result in words going in one ear and out the other. Whereas remaining quiet, and then having meaningful conversations at a time when they are more open to reason, will yield far better results. Sometimes less is more. It is best to avoid confrontations unless it is a life threatening situation.

Rite & Right Of Passage

The road is going to be long and hard. But to them, it is a rite of passage into adulthood. Most teenagers with the right guidance will eventually pass through this stage. No matter how turbulent the journey may be, the dust will settle as they mature. And they will finally find some inkling as to which direction they wish to steer their lives in.

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Adult, Consequence, Consequences, Experience, Growing Pains, Life, Mature, Maturity, Moral, Parent, Rebel, Teen, Values

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author avatar SuburbanTarzan
Life is black and white. Grey areas are for those who sit on the fence. I think way too much for my own good. If I don't write, I'll go insane. So here I am.

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
22nd Aug 2011 (#)

Great artile Suburban Tarzan. Lots of good common sense here. Thank you.

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author avatar SuburbanTarzan
22nd Aug 2011 (#)

Thanks for the feedback. Much appreciated!

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
22nd Aug 2011 (#)

article

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
22nd Aug 2011 (#)

They say that having teenagers is a revenge for our being young once too.

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author avatar SuburbanTarzan
22nd Aug 2011 (#)

Yup I can't argue there Mark!

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