Reality of Agape Love in Marriage II: The Love of One Man For One Woman

Funom MakamaStarred Page By Funom Makama, 21st Feb 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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So far so good, we have been talking about Love and have concluded on exhibiting the Agape Love in every of our relationships. We want to now focus on a practical reality of how this Love should be shown in our Marriages. Please note that by using the Biblical principle, I do not condemn any religious principle of Love. Love is Universal! But I just want to relate what I believe in relation to love to you hoping you at least learn something out of it.

Introduction

Unlike my other series on Love, this particular one consist of 5 episodes which are independent of each other. Some experiences in marriages are selected and discussed based on the Biblical principle and how they should actually be. Therefore, the 5 different episodes are not significantly linked. We know in the real world people do what they please, but for the fact a so-called Christian beats his wife does not mean it is what the Bible teaches him to do. This is the reason I have taken my time to draft out quality articles such as this, drawing out raw passages from the scriptures to ensure we learn and as for those deviating, to adjust! Love from the Biblical point of view is a wonderful experience and one that should not be ignored.

Adam's delight!

Imagine Adam's delight when he first saw her! He had never dreamed that anyone could be so beautiful. Jesus said of them and of all married couples since, "The two will become one" (Matthew 19:5). Any man who is not proud and self-sufficient knows that if he has found a good wife, has found a good thing and obtain favor from God. " A man can inherit a house and money from his parents, but only the Lord can give him a sensible wife" (Proverbs 19:14). For a man to love one such woman is the 'commandment of God", and John says. "His commandments are not grievous" (1st John 5:3).

"Grievous"? The "commandment" is written within our very nature as humans! Could anything be easier? It is natural for the man who loves a woman to desire to become "One" with her, and for the woman who loves him to desire to be "one" with a man. Even from the tender years of childhood, we humans feel the drawing of sexual attraction. Unless it is confused and perverted by indulgence in sinful selfishness, this inward desire of man is for one woman only, and woman's desire is for one man only. We call this "Love". Unless we choose to be evil and wreck it, it lasts forever. It is pure and holy, yet inexpressibly delightful in its "One man" and "One woman" exclusiveness.

Polygamy is far from God's Plan for us

Polygamy is not natural. Not only is it true that it was never God's plan for us humans, but it is also true that it is contrary to the unspoiled nature of man and woman. Adultery is ungodly, contrary to the spirit of love which is man's and woman's greatest happiness. Both are inventions contrary to human nature. The Bible "song of songs" reveals how this kind of love is natural to all human hearts unless Satan has corrupted it:
Let the king have sixty queens.
eighty concubines, young women without number!
But I love only one,
and she is...... lovely
(6:8).

Poets sing, 'Ah, sweet mystery of life..... love! It is implanted deep in the human heart by the true God who Himself is love. That "true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world" (1st John 1:9) Awaken this mystery of love within you; it takes a lot of Satan's hauling in mud and filth to cover up this God-given urge to Love. It is not possible for a man or woman to turn to the corruptions of harlotry, adultery, or fornication, or polygamy unless first of all he or she stamps out the bright shining of that "true light" in his heart. The "light" has shone from creation, and more brightly since the cross of Christ.

Unnatural connections!

The main essence of such Love in Marriage is to show some level of respect and equality also (which we would see in our next episode-Equality in Marriage). If a Man has more than one wife, there is no way he will show same level of affection to both and since from our previous series, we were meant to understand that Love is built on the soul-to-soul connection between two individuals-and in terms of eros, not a soul-to-soul-to-soul or even more souls attached, but just two souls. The soul-to-soul easily connects in terms of the two. Now, let there be three people (soul-soul-soul), this should not be seen linearly but like a triangle here. The connection, the Man has with one wife should be as strong as the one with the other wife. It does not just stop there, for this kind of Love to work, we said all parties are involved, hence the two wives should also have the same magnitude or intensity of the soul-to-soul union they both have with their husband. Can this be possible? Imagine this same scenario where more than 2 wives are involved!

We can now see how unnatural Polygamy is in terms of Love and this is also applicable to Harlotry and Adultery. Sex with a marriage partner makes them One flesh, 1 Corinthians 6:16 "Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, "The two will become one flesh" That is to say, he is one flesh with his wife and now one flesh with this prostitute or whoever he is sleeping with, this also is totally unnatural. One may wonder how possible these things still happen, but when we think of homosexuality in this light, we will understand that it is very possible for unnatural things to still occur.

Let's imagine a world where sex is only expressed in Marriage and people hold strongly to the principle of the One-man for-One woman Love. No fornication, no Adultery. Husbands are safe from the sparks of Whores while Wives are safe from the enticing words of careless Men, don't you think the World would be much more better? Statistic shows that more than 60% of Divorce are linked or rooted from infidelity.

To read the first episode in this series, click on the Link below
Reality Of Agape Love in Marriage: Is Sex Condemned in the Bible?

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Adam And Eve, Adultery, Commandment, Corruption, Creation, Fornication, Harlotry, Inward Desire, Married Couples, Mystery Of Life, Nature, Polygamy, Prostitute, Scriptures, Sexual Attraction, Sinful Selfishness, Ungodly

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author avatar Buzz
25th Feb 2012 (#)

Another master stroke of your prolific pen, doc. Thank you.

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author avatar pretty_writer
26th Feb 2012 (#)

really prolific

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author avatar Funom Makama
25th Feb 2012 (#)

Thanks a lot BUZZ!

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
25th Feb 2012 (#)

Always interested to read your page, Funom.

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author avatar Funom Makama
25th Feb 2012 (#)

thanks Ivy!

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author avatar Sheila Newton
25th Feb 2012 (#)

beautiful writing yet again Funom. Sorry if I'm not commenting on all your work - but I AM reading it all. Loving every word in your 'love' series in pearticular.

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author avatar Funom Makama
25th Feb 2012 (#)

thanks a lot Sheila Newton, provided u r reading it, its cool!

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author avatar Teila
26th Feb 2012 (#)

Great series

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
26th Feb 2012 (#)

http://www.bible-people.info/Rachel.htm

Any number above one is more than a requisite union in my case, but accepted and quoted as trickery in the Bible...
There is room for forgiveness and acceptance too but depends on circumstances....
Violence has no room as it is the violation of mutual respect as with cheating on the spouse behind the back... Tell them on the face and get out of the union if not happy.... God does understand...

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author avatar Funom Makama
26th Feb 2012 (#)

Lady Aiyanna, please can you expantiate on this "Any number above one is more than a requisite union in my case, but accepted and quoted as trickery in the Bible..."

Understand me Aiyanna... I am doing this to teach and show the world a way (which may even seem strange to some) of establishing and maintaining Love. If you write something incomprehensible here, I expect you expantiate on it, so that my readers would not be misled.

If you say somethings and say it is in the Bible, please do your best to quote verses from the Bible.. I do not want you to use my articles (meant for edification) to cause confusion, even int he slightest magnitude. Read through all the series again, you will discover I put in some Biblical back-up and that is why Biblical Psychology is the foundation to these 3 series I produced under the leadership of the Holy Spirit here. Secondly, I am not doing this to showcase my belief or to show what I believe in is the best. All I am trying to do is to make the world see Love in the perspective of my beliefs and see if its application can better their relationships. Unbelievers can even damn the verses or biblical quotes if they want, but they should get the points I stressed out and try to apply them in their relationships/marriages one way or the other to see if it would work. Simple!
Sometimes, I really do not understand what you are up to, or what you stand to achieve in putting in some weird and confusive comments. Worst of all, bringing in some theories or ideologies and claiming them to be Biblical. Please elaborate more and if possible give quotations, if not, I would be forced to delete that comment.

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author avatar Barine Nakwaasah
2nd Mar 2012 (#)

You are so good. Keep this up!

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author avatar Funom Makama
2nd Mar 2012 (#)

thanks and welcome to wikinut.

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author avatar johnbee
13th Mar 2012 (#)

You have talent. Keep using it for the LORD!

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author avatar Funom Makama
14th Mar 2012 (#)

thank you Johnbee

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