Practical Application of Love II: Love is Blind But the Lover Shouldn't Be

Funom MakamaStarred Page By Funom Makama, 19th Feb 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Our second episode of the second series we have been writing about Love. So far so good, we want to know the significance of the statement "Love is Blind". If most of us are been asked the question "Is Love Blind?" What is our reaction? Do you believe Love is really Blind?

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For the first episode of this series, you can come here. I strongly suggest you read it before coming back to this article. Have fun!

'The guy must be tall, huge, very athletic, strong, from a Jewish home' etc. And the funniest thing is sometimes we carry too many specifications for one person that such a person do not even exist in the world. You cannot channel love to whomever you want, it is a natural feeling which just comes and you feel it for a person after a while of attraction. Poppy love is very dangerous and it is so ridiculous to see some Adults doing this. Love is not about been pretty, or been rich, or been spiritual or been honest. Yes, these may be added qualities of attraction, but it takes two to love and if two halves come together to form wholeness, there must be cohesion and a perfect fitting for them to blend. Don't you think?

No Couple is weird!

The topic of Love can never seize to end in terms of practical reality and human reasoning. Experiences of heart break and subsequent consequence of fear have made a lot of people say a lot of things about Love. What is love actually and why do people fall in it?

First of all, Love itself is true. There is nothing like true love. We often have this misconception and when we are deeply in it, we consider it true love. Does that mean there is false love? Love itself is love and anything above or below or beyond it is not love. It is pure and independent on its on and whoever is experiencing it is experiencing Love.

We often mistake love and the lover. A girl who was sobbing in the subway was approached by a young man to be consoled. She turned her very wet angered face towards the man as she screams "You men are heartless, I will never fall in love again!". This caught so many passengers' attention and then she walked away. Really! You will never fall in love again? And can you tell us why? Is it because your lovers have been hurting you or because love itself is mean to you? Most girls due to bad experiences proclaim celibacy out of frustration. You can never be a nun overnight and celibacy is a natural phenomenon which you have to be born with and not just acquired instantly in a moment. Why blame it on love? Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep record of wrongs that others do, it rejoices in truth, but not in evil, it is always supportive, loyal, hopeful and trusting and Love never fails. Is this what someone will proclaim not to experience? It is not this easy to move on and I am not really emphasizing on this. My main point here is we should see it in more light that Love is itself pure and any human endeavour we suffer from should be blamed and not Love itself.

A lover may exhibit jealousy, pride or selfishness, but that doesn't mean its a criteria of him loving you. Its just simply his human cons. When we end up with the wrong partner, maybe due to our carelessness or insensitivity to both sides of the person or just bad luck, we blame it on Love. No my friends, Love is blind and this is very true. What does it mean? It means love has no boundaries in race, color, height, social class, taste, and any other physical features. That is to say, a cobbler can marry a bank manager, a Hispanic can marry an African, a woman of 183cm in height can madly be in love with a man who is just 164cm; and a person who is seen as the weirdest, most unattractive could be as well cherished, worshiped and adored by another individual. Love is truly blind, but does it just end there? Absolutely No! The lover shouldn't be. What does this mean? In as much as you can love anybody from any race, color or other features which may not be parallel to yours, you still need to be careful, watchful and alert to ensure you are loving someone who is very compatible to you. You have the right to know what you want and who can suite you best, then fall in love with such a person. If you followed my previous series, then you will understand this point better- Love is blind in the sense that the attraction does not really matter. But the Lover shouldn't be in the sense that the soul-to-soul union matters alot. You do not rush love and end up with the wrong person then finally blame it on Love again-that is absurd. Remember, Love is patient and you just have to be as you grow stronger in it. You cannot know an individual for 3 months and conclude on marrying them.What exactly do you think you know about the person? Or do you think you are so engrossed in love that it is simply enough for you to spend your life with such a person?

The Lover shouldn't be

An accountant, due to how tedious his job was vowed not to marry another accountant. There was a particular lady in his working place he has been avoiding. He tried all he could with other ladies and things did not just work out. After like 4 years of trials, he finally came to terms with the fact that he likes the lady but just avoiding her. He got to know her and they became the best couples ever. He used his job as a yardstick of love (which is wrong) and he was lucky enough to still come back and meet her available for him. A lady once said, she loves basket ballers and all she wants is to date and marry one. She was fortunate to date about 4 of them within the space of 8 months and it was horrible for her. The same thing she detested (pride) was the major characteristics of all the Basket ballers she knew (no one is saying they are proud). Finally, she came to terms with the fact that most of them are not really what she thought character-wise, finally, she fell in love with someone who was 3cm shorter than she is and not an athletic person in anyway.

We lust after some category of people and misconstrue this with love. Lust is totally different and it is something that is temporary. If we find out that we have this sudden passion and attraction for a certain category of persons due to some physical quality, then we should check-mate such desires. They are not wrong desires but most times, they cloud our minds and blind our eyes in seeing the best person for us who is just next door. In most cases it is the wrong desire which may be taken to be love. You cannot be rigid to the specification of whom you will love. This is what is informally called "poppy love" or "high school love".

Finally, you are urged to leave your heart open to whoever it may finally love, nevertheless do not be blind in choosing who is more compatible to you because if you get hurt, its definitely not the fault of Love but the lover (either one of them or both of them). Make things right and do what is necessary to compliment this wonderful, God giving gift called Love. It is actually blind, but you the lover should never be!

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Boastful, High School Love, Jealous, Kind, Lover, Partner, Patient, Poppy Love, Proud, Selfishness, True Love

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author avatar Buzz
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Very interesting article, Funom. Entertaining.

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author avatar Funom Makama
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

You have been consistent in your friendship and efforts Buzz... I hope when I come to the Phillipines, we will get to see...

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author avatar Lambasted
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

So true!~~~ You are just too good and overwhelming. I read this article in awe.

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author avatar Funom Makama
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Thanks Lambasted, I hope you learnt from it?

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author avatar Lambasted
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

definitely...

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author avatar Funom Makama
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Thats great!~~ God Bless you!

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author avatar Lambasted
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Amen, and you too!

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author avatar pretty_writer
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

You have lots of stuff in you Funom!

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author avatar Funom Makama
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Thanks a lot.

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
23rd Feb 2012 (#)

Love is not about how the person looks but who they are within them. Don't care about the looks, its the spirit, the soul, the attitude and the beliefs that influence a relationship.

The oddest couple in HIStory would probably be Michael Jackson and Myself why??? Many called him efeminate and many call me boyish. Go figure.

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author avatar Funom Makama
23rd Feb 2012 (#)

Good to know we agree in the article.

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author avatar Sheila Newton
24th Feb 2012 (#)

My computer didn't want to bring up part one - but part two in this second series is sensational.
Great star page and great images.

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author avatar Funom Makama
24th Feb 2012 (#)

Thanks Sheila Newton

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
26th Feb 2012 (#)

Thank you, Funom: Another interesting page.

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author avatar Funom Makama
26th Feb 2012 (#)

thank you Ivy

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author avatar Barine Nakwaasah
2nd Mar 2012 (#)

You are so good. Keep this up!

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author avatar Funom Makama
2nd Mar 2012 (#)

thanks and welcome to wikinut.

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