ONLINE DATING - YES OR NO - To Online Date or Not to Online Date

AND I SAID TO MYSELF By AND I SAID TO MYSELF, 26th Apr 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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In 2001 I relocated to Toronto with my job. I knew one person besides the people I worked with and frankly I was lonely. I was also single and wanted to meet the man of my dreams. After much soul searching and trolling on line I finally bit the bullet and created a profile on Lavalife.


The first man I met was in real estate which I thought accounted for his strange hours. We dated for about three weeks when I received a call in my office from a flower shop wanting to confirm my address. The delivery was a less than happy woman who was also dating the man and she informed he was also married. I told her she could definitely have him. (He actually called me and gave me what for for admitting that I knew him and it was going to cost him a trip to Jamaica to settle her down).....

Strike One

Being tenacious I decided not to let this deter me. Obviously the man had some issues and in reality I could have met him anywhere and still had that same experience. So, I had other dates, many scammers....ladies - if they sound too good to be true they probably are particularly if they are just away on business right now so can't meet and low and behold there is some emergency that they would normally never ever ask for money....need I say more except DON'T. And more dates - good guys and it just never clicked. Oh and just one more funny story where the man and I were having a discussion on a deal breaker for me. He told me that he was only going to beat to his own drum and that compromise was not a word in his vocabulary, so I asked him to leave. He looked at me and said "If I put my shoes on and walk through that door I am never coming back." I agreed that would be a good thing. It took him half an hour to put his shoes on, two weeks later he called to say he was an idiot and I agreed again. Fast forward to 2012 (a five year relationship with a man that I did not meet on Lavalife, a one year relationship with a man I did, and a few breaks I decided to go on one last date.

The Last Date

One last date...I had enough. It seemed at times, although there was an endless supply of men, there wasn't one for me.

We met for a 40 minutes walk and it turned into a 6 hour date and to date a 3 plus year committed relationship. He came with his two beautiful sweet dogs and we have built a life together....even retired early together. So, Ladies and Gentlemen, do not give up and enjoy the journey...I now believe there really is someone for everyone if that is what you choose.


Dating, Inspirational, Love At First Sight, Love Story, Romance, Scammers

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author avatar Zahna Klaver
27th Apr 2015 (#)

You are soooo blessed! Glad you got the other good one ;)

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
27th Apr 2015 (#)

Thanks for sharing your wonderful article. I'm so glad that you have a good life. Blessings to you!

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author avatar brendamarie
27th Apr 2015 (#)

So happy for you great article thanks for sharing

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11th Jun 2015 (#)

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