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LynnetteOK By LynnetteOK, 7th Jul 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/24jo3ofe/
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Ways to make a happier relationship through communication

Morning Coffee

My fiance and I sit in bed and drink coffee together every morning. We've done this every day since the first night we spent together. If he has to leave for work at 6:00, we get up at 4:00 so we have time to do this. It's a wonderful practice. It gives us time to connect before the busyness of the day pulls us in different directions. Even the dogs get in on it, climbing into the bed with us.

This morning I started thinking about the simple ways we communicate that make our relationship stronger and happier. These things work really well for us. I thought I'd share a few of them with you. Here we go...

Evening communication

Communication is the cornerstone of a working relationship, whether with a significant other, a coworker, a friend, or children. One of the things my fiance (Tim) and I do to keep communication flowing is that we eat dinner together at the table at least three times a week. Other evenings we eat dinner in the living room while we watch the news. Eating dinner at the table can become a chore. Only doing it a few times a week makes it feel a little bit special when we do it.

Regardless of where we eat, we make it a point to take time to reconnect when we both get home. We take the time to talk about what's happened during the day. We talk about how it's gone for us. I listen, and occasionally comment, while he tells me about his day, and he does the same for me. Both of us talking and listening is the key.

Communication throughout the day

Tim and I make an effort to touch base throughout the day. He's working and I'm doing whatever I'm doing that day. A text that says "I love you" or "How's it going?" can really brighten up the day. It's an easy way to let the other know that we're thinking of them.

Sometimes I put a little note in his lunchbox with something to make him smile on it.

I believe everyone has a need to feel loved and appreciated. Little gestures like these go a long way toward meeting that need.

Expressing positive feelings

Hearing positive things from someone makes you want to be closer to them. Saying simple things like, "I appreciate you." or "You look nice today." make a relationship much happier. Doesn't everyone want to be happy? If you're hearing things like, "Have you noticed how grey your hair is getting?." or "That was a stupid thing to do." you're not going to look forward to talking with that person.

Of course, nobody does everything right or always looks perfect. It's a matter of choosing to focus on the positive and express that. Granted, you may have to look really hard to see something positive, but when you do it should be expressed. The more you do it, the easier it gets.

Simple courtesy

An important aspect of communication that often gets overlooked is simple courtesy. I've heard couples talk to each other in ways they'd never tolerate anyone else talking to the other person. I remember a friend of ours being amazed because we say "please" and "thank you" to each other. Doesn't someone you care about deserve at least as much courtesy as you'd give to a stranger asking for directions?

This one is also vital with children. If you speak to them with courtesy, they learn to speak to others that way.

Communication Overview

These are just a few little things that will make a big difference in any relationship. It may take some effort at first, but it is well worth it. These things will make you feel loved and secure. You'll feel better about your relationship and about yourself.

Try it out. Let me know how it goes.

Until next time.....

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Appreciation, Choice, Communication, Courtesy, Love, Relationship Tips

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author avatar LynnetteOK
Mother, grandmother,.CASA volunteer, cook, and crafter. Follow my blog at
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author avatar Tranquilpen
8th Jul 2013 (#)

A great read, thanks for sharing

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author avatar LynnetteOK
10th Jul 2013 (#)

I'm very glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for letting me know.

Lynnette

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