Love is Never Easy

Carol Cousins By Carol Cousins, 3rd Oct 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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When you love someone you can overcome any problem with a little patience and time.

Even the Best Relationships Have Problems

My husband and I have been married going on three years and I love him more today than I did when we got married. People look at us and think we are perfect and that we have no problems at all. The fact is that every relationship has issues, you just have to learn how to work through them. So many people give up and decide to divorce. I believe if you truly love someone you do all you can to make it work.

Don't get me wrong, my husband and I both were married before we found each other. We both had horrible marriages. My ex-husband was an abusive alcoholic and his ex-wife cheated and abused him mentally. Yes, men can be abused. The thing is that through the bad things we went through we can appreciate each other more.

My husband is wonderful and I am sure you expected me to say that but tell me if you don't agree after reading what I am about to tell you. First off my ex-husband beat me so bad he left me with arthritis in my shoulders and pelvic area. Secondly, I have been diagnosed with fibromyalgia and for those of you who don't know. Fibromyalgia causes wide spread pain throughout the whole body. I have COPD, bursitis in my hip, sleep apnea, and panic attacks. Yes, I know maybe they should bury me now. lol. But those are just the major health issues I have that I know of right now. I complain from pain all the time (although I really try not to) and there are times I can't do anything at all. So now do you see what a wonderful man he is to put up with all of these things?

I do everything I can when I am able to make him happy. When I am able I will bring him something to drink and have him sit in his recliner, I will bake him cookies and I will do my best to keep him as happy as possible. He works and supports me and my three daughters from my previous marriage.

He has carpal tunnel in both hands, and high cholesterol. However, when he gets sick I rarely hear him complain. Now I know I have sung his praises until you are tired of hearing it so let me make my point.

Recently my oldest daughter moved back home from her grandparents house. All three of my girls are teenagers. I am so happy to have them all home it is amazing. Well, my hubby and I rarely argue but when we do the girls scatter to their rooms or such. Do you know what the main reason couples argue is? Yes, you guessed it money. My husband makes good money with his job and I was working until recently and my health is getting worse.

So we argue over money occasionally but our biggest issue is my children not doing their chores and then wanting MONEY. So this is where the money comes in. Luckily, for me my husband is someone that we can sit down and talk things through.

Yes, I know I have rambled on but there is a point and here it is. When couples have problems they need to be able to sit down discuss things and try to work it out. Sometimes, it may be necessary to take a little time to cool off before you talk. Just remember if you love someone then you shouldn't just throw away what you have over something that you will find to be rather petty later. There are unforgivable issues that arise but most of the time all you have to do is talk. You may not always agree so maybe just agree to disagree. There are times that your partner just needs time to think it over and they will understand your point of view and vice versa.

People are just to quick to throw in the towel and then they live their lives full of regret and hurt. Don't be a statistic, work through your problems and your love will be even stronger for it.

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Arthritis, Fibromyalgia, Love, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Relationship Help, Relationship Issues, Relationship Problems, Relationships, Relationships Love

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author avatar Carol Cousins
I love to write and read. I am the mother of three beautiful teens and married to the man of my dreams. Life has been good but I have had a lot of lessons to learn on the way. I hope to share my knowledge with you.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
3rd Oct 2010 (#)

This is a wonderful write about how important it is to work at a relationship.

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author avatar LOVERME
8th Oct 2010 (#)

before one marries
one says

COME PROMISE........

THEN ONCE ONE IS MARRIED
TO ENABLE THE MG TO LAST
WE ALL HAVE TO

COMPROMISE

THAT'S the only way we all can laaast

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author avatar Tranquilpen
16th Aug 2011 (#)

Profanely wise words indeed, It sure has been working for my wife and I for the past 36 years. Thank you :-))

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