Let's Talk:Bullying in Schools

1realistutopian By 1realistutopian, 12th Aug 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Preparing our young people with better communication skills will help them to deal with bullies.

Prevention is Best

The often-overlooked topic, bullying at school, is one of the major sources of concern for parents at the beginning of the academic year. Yet, a little forward thinking can assist children to recognize and successfully overcome instances of verbal, physical or mental abuse in the educational environment.

The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) offers some practical assistance for parents looking for guidance on how to approach the issue. It is important to distinguish bullying from normal disagreements. Bullying is “when a child picks on another child repeatedly.” It can occur anywhere on the school grounds, in the neighborhood, and even on the school bus. Increasing numbers of young people are using social networking sites to stay in touch with peers, and so it is important to recognize that bullying can also occur over the internet.

Whether a parent suspects their child is being bullied or not, it is important to keep the lines of communication open. The AAP recommends that helping young people to learn how to react to negative situations will reduce their likelihood of being victimized.
If confronted by a bully;

1. Maintain eye contact. This shows that you are not easily intimidated.
2. Stay calm in a difficult situation. Do not escalate the problem.
3. Walk away. Tell someone about the confrontation.

Bullies thrive on fear. Most who are victimized do not want to “stand up” to their challenger dreading the prospect of making the problem worse by making the tormenter “angry” with them. Depending on the individual child’s confidence level, some things that could be said include;

1. “I don’t like what you are doing.”
2. “Please do NOT talk to me like that.”
3. “Why would you say that?”

One of the most important things to teach children, however, is to ask for help. A child must never feel ashamed to ask an adult for support.

Children must also learn that bullying, under any circumstances, is wrong. Witnessing an attack on another individual, even if they may not directly participate, still requires a degree of moral and social responsibilities. If we educate our children to report bullying when they witness it occurring on their school campus, they then become advocates for the cause, and help keep their peers safe. The single most important thing parents can do, is adopt a zero tolerance, proactive approach, and ensure their child knows what to do if another student bullies them, or someone they know.

Further information on bullying can be found at: http://www.stopbullying.gov/

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author avatar A K Rao
12th Aug 2012 (#)

Very inreresting and informative article dear realistutopian! Thanks for sharing!

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author avatar akram saqib
13th Aug 2012 (#)

helpful for parents and teachers

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author avatar Retired
29th Aug 2012 (#)

My daughter was bullied at school. She ended up going to adult college to finish her final year as the school did nothing to help. Thankfully, her grades were excellent and she passed all exams with flying colours.
She lost all her confidence for almost 2 years. But now...she works for Chanel and has a wide range of wonderful friends.
Thank you for this informative article.

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