Just a Superhero

Tony Barnes By Tony Barnes, 3rd Oct 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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My wife had surgery...but, people keep asking me how I am doing. Hey, I am just a superhero...

How Am I Doing?

I am just a superhero who saves damsels in distress. At least that’s what I told the lady at church. It has become a common phrase of mine as people express concern as to how I am doing. My wife had some serious surgery this past month…as if some surgeries aren’t serious. Let’s rephrase that to ‘major surgery’. Maybe that explains it better. I had hundreds of people praying which of course turns into hundreds of people asking how she is for weeks after the surgery. In church, you end up with rapid fire questions about her status as you simply try to get to the sanctuary.

A few of those people will stop for a moment, give you that serious ominous look in the eye and demand to know how I AM DOING. It’s a great question, but I wonder if they are hoping for some insidious reply that reveals how I have sunk into a desperate, nightly addiction to eating a gallon of Blue Bell Rocky Road ice cream as a way to cope with the stress. I can’t stand almonds, so that is never likely to happen. But, I bet they think there is a hidden ice cream scoop in my nightstand.

But, if you are like me…you come up with some snappy quip to try and convince them you really are okay. Because frankly, if you are honest with everyone that asks that question there is a strong chance you might end up staying in a bed and breakfast with group meetings in room with bars on the windows. For a few very close friends, I opened up to ask them to pray for me as I was very concerned about my wife’s condition. After all, it was a very serious diagnosis and both my wife and I struggled with the best course of action to take. For my closest buddies, there was no humorous zinger to break the tension of that question. Even if I tried to get away with skirting the issues, these are friends that look deep in my soul and know if I am lying.

This band of brothers is a collection of my best of friends. They are men that I trust because I have either been stationed with them, been pastored by them or meet with them on a regular basis. They are the kind of people that help you to look like a superhero. For when they see my weaknesses, they lift me up in prayer. These are friends who would show up smiling at 3 in the morning to pick me up on some isolated mountain road because my vehicle has stalled. Those are the folks I am most likely to open my soul and tell them how I am really doing. I know they won’t judge me…they will instead pray for me.

I envision myself as Superman who was said to be faster than a speeding bullet, able to leap tall buildings in a single bound, and more powerful than a locomotive. But, if the truth be known I am more like Donald Duck waddling around, grouching about some current dilemma. I am sure glad to have my group of friends that will hold me accountable. But, since my wife’s surgery…I’m doing pretty well. In case you are wondering, she’s recuperating well. I’m just a superhero who rescues damsels in distress…who is grateful for brothers in Christ that are there when I need them.


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author avatar Tony Barnes
I am a native Texan who spent 3 years in the Marine Corps Reserves and 25 years on active duty in the Air Force. I have been a Christian since 1985 and am an ordained minister. I am conservative politically and love to study history. I publish a mont...(more)

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author avatar brendamarie
3rd Oct 2015 (#)

I hope, your wife is doing fine.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
3rd Oct 2015 (#)

My best wishes for you rwife prompt and speedy recovery, nice to see your writings again my dear friend. Indeed our faith is the one that moves mountains as well our Holy Father never leaves us in time of despair, Blessings to you and the wife!

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author avatar Nancy Czerwinski
4th Oct 2015 (#)

Best wishes to you and your wife. I wish her a speedy recovery.

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author avatar Retired
2nd Nov 2015 (#)

I went surgery 8 months ago and miraculously survived. I could understand the way you feel because my hubby had experienced the same.

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