If you are from same CASTE or RELIGION

Shreeja By Shreeja, 15th Sep 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Things are not so easy for everyone when they fall in love and decide to marry. Love marriage is not considered a good act specially outer caste marriages in India not in whole India but mostly and some other countries. I am not resisting the arrange marriage but taking the issue of why outer caste marriage is not allowed if two persons loves each other truly.

Pain Of Seperation

Some people are lucky in love. They fall in love and decide to marry. Mostly in some countries like India and other Asian countries, there is always an issue of love marriage out of caste. Of course things are on changing, but in some areas, outer-caste marriage is always a big issue. Most of the time, parents don't allow to love marriage out of caste because they think that their children can't take decisions of their marriage specially when boy or girl belongs to another caste. Parents sometime come under the pressure of relatives and society. This becomes a question of their dignity. Boy or girl is compelled to marry somewhere else according to family's wish. They feel free and relaxed but do not try to understand boy/girl's feelings. It is not about the decision, whether they do right or wrong but about two persons who want to live together and stay with each other whole life. But because they are not from same religions and caste they cannot marry due to the family resistance.
In some cases, boy and girl tries to agree parents for their marry, and they get to succeed but in some other cases, either they compel to do marry to someone else according to parents wish or if they try to protest, they are killed by their own family. This happens mainly in rural areas where stereotype thinking remains on top. Two persons who love to each other badly and want to spend their life with each other's dream is separated just because of family's dignity and values. What is the advantage of values when two people can't live together in spite loving each other?. Can family values superior than someone's life? The maturity age for boys is 21 and for girls, it is 18 according to the indian government rules even after that they can't decide to stay with each other. Nothing can be so tragic than this fact, and no one can measure the pain of separation in two eyes.
I heard from my childhood that god is one, but his names are so many. He does not make any religion, castes and creed. He just made nature and their creatures now then why differences came? Did god say to us to fight on religion and caste?
God does not say that outer caste marriage is a sin. He does not say that he will curse us if we will try to do love marriage specially in outer-caste. I did not get any answers in this matter from anyone. I saw many parents after their son/daughter's outer caste love marriage, they used to say that what will they say to their relatives or how would they face the society. I know parents are everything. They nourish their child and teach him life's lessons, but some decisions should leave on them for their happiness.

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Love Marriages, Outer Caste Marriages, Religion, Stereotype

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author avatar juny
16th Sep 2011 (#)

Thanks for sharing this information...
I am not against arrange marriages- but pity those unfortunate ones like how you illustrated in here.

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author avatar Shreeja
17th Sep 2011 (#)

Thanks oballesansano, it is a big issue i think.

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author avatar Champrockx
16th Sep 2011 (#)

Right !! absolutely true...I have seen so many of them hapng in India and Yea which is not rght...Nicely written and very well explained ;)

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author avatar Shreeja
17th Sep 2011 (#)

Thanks champ, we know very well

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author avatar Buzz
17th Sep 2011 (#)

Insightful article, Shreeja. Thanks for the share.

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author avatar Shreeja
17th Sep 2011 (#)

Thanks for liking and reading this :)

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author avatar sungrace
18th Sep 2011 (#)

An eye opening article, Shreeja. Religion and caste are created by man; not the mighty God. Marriage is the union of souls, that's inseparable. Because, love is divine! But miserably most of the love marriages fail due to cultural conflicts, lac of support from the families and society, arrogance of the bride/groom. But true love will survive all the obstacles. Thanks for the article.

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author avatar Shreeja
20th Sep 2011 (#)

thanks a lot sir

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author avatar GV Rama Rao
19th Sep 2011 (#)

You have expressed your thoughts clearly. However, you can make it brief by cutting down some words.

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author avatar GV Rama Rao
19th Sep 2011 (#)

You have expressed your thoughts clearly. However, you can make it brief by cutting down some words.

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author avatar Shreeja
20th Sep 2011 (#)

oh thanks a lot for your suggestion :)

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author avatar Retired
2nd Oct 2011 (#)

Religion is faith of people and the culture is the result of our learnt habits. The systems are made by the people and it differs in different societies. What is good and what is bad is not in the universal dictionary. True love is real blessing and it always survives.Some barriers can come due to cultural things and it definitely affects life of people.

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author avatar I.awara.munda.rajasthan.da
6th Oct 2011 (#)

very truelly written am d victum of this.. :(

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author avatar Shreeja
7th Oct 2011 (#)

I know how you are feeling victim :D

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author avatar Shubham Anmol
10th May 2012 (#)

Hye shreerja i hav started a campaign against honour killing. Plz join it on facebook. U can search it by the name Fight against biggest crimes.

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author avatar Palani
29th Jun 2013 (#)

can you help me to do outer caste marriage..bec i love a girl in outer caste .. now caste is the only problem ... atleast can you send contact details of those who support this kind of marriage

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