How to be happily single

IsabelleChan By IsabelleChan, 20th Aug 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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People often equate single life with misery. By life or by choice, being single is actually an enjoyable thing, if you truly love yourself, and know there are better things in life which make you complete.

How to be happily single

Being single has nothing to be ashamed of. Many people tend to believe that one’s happiness is positively correlated to his/her relationship status. Those with girlfriends/boyfriends are more content with their lives, while those who are single must be incomplete and relatively miserable. Proudly single, I enjoy every single bit of my life and never intend to change it. If you happen to be single but feel insecure about your life (and perhaps yourself too), come here and let me show you the ways to be happy.

1. Love yourself

People who think their lives are incomplete without a partner need to embrace singlehood and start loving themselves. Sure, being able to hold the hand of an enviable partner probably means that you are nice to get along with, charming and physically attractive in the opposite sex’s eyes, but being single doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t own those admirable attributes. It’s just that the person who is smart enough to appreciate your beauty has not yet arrived. Start loving yourself today and be proud of who you are. Stare at the person in the mirror and smile back. Boosting your inner confidence will make you a charismatic person that shines from inside.

2. Work on a long-term goal

Dating occupies one’s time so much that it makes one feel ‘complete’. When people are single, they tend to think negatively because they’ve got so much time to spend, but basically nothing to do. They wonder what their lives are for and whether they are simply worthless. Boredom in life, however, has nothing to do with your relationship status, but your lack of ambitions. Find a long-term goal to work on, something that you’ve always wanted to throw yourself in, but never dare to lurch a small step forward. When your mind is occupied by that one gigantic, glowing dream, be it to launch a small business, learn karate, write a book or fight for human rights, these dreams will enable you to get your mind off dating and suddenly not having a partner doesn’t seem to matter anymore because life offers you with more options to be happily single.

3. Explore your other interests

When your friends hang out with their boyfriends/girlfriends, it’s often the time when you feel like your life is hollow and vacuous. To banish this negative thought and make full use of all these ‘extra’ time that you friends don’t have, you can explore other interests. Different from a long-term goal, these interests that you choose to invest your time in can be a spur-of-the-moment decision, just to keep your curiosity fed. Learn French. Play the Piano. Go jogging. Practice chess. Acknowledge different possibilities in life and always, always challenge yourself. Being single can be fun if you know the ways to create a better life.

4. Hang out with friends that you miss

Being single doesn’t mean your social life has to be blank. On the contrary, singlehood clears more space for other people that you've missed or have not hung out for quite a while. Establishing ties with your new friends, re-uniting with your old friends and spending time with your family members spices up your social life. While you may have neglected these people when you are dating, now you have much time to make up for them. Spend time with people who love you and whom you love makes you happy again. You’ll discover that being single actually pulls you close to your friends and family again. The old memories come back and you’ll be thankful for all these spare time.

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Happiness, Personal Experience, Single Life, Single Women

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author avatar IsabelleChan
A Chinese lady. Loves literature. A staunch feminist. Hopelessly romantic. Write to Live. Also find my writings at http://www.expertscolumn.com

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author avatar jkalwaye
21st Aug 2012 (#)

nature has a law to abide by all her inhabitants .By breaking this law ,one will have to suffer a lot .I think you can understand what i mean .jk

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author avatar IsabelleChan
21st Aug 2012 (#)

But I think the pain is worth it. Isabelle

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author avatar jkalwaye
21st Aug 2012 (#)

pain is always pain .Try to heal the pain .jk

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author avatar IsabelleChan
21st Aug 2012 (#)

Okay. Maybe I'm a bit confused about what you've said in the first comment. Could you just explain to me in plain words?

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author avatar jkalwaye
21st Aug 2012 (#)

being a single one have to suffer loneliness, depression and insecurity thinking about future .Life is short .be pleasant and happy always .jk

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author avatar IsabelleChan
21st Aug 2012 (#)

Oh yeah, so I've got it right. Thanks for explaining. I just want to make things clear. Well, I actually enjoy being single, I mean, I don't really suffer from loneliness. It's just a cliche that everybody links singlehood with. Being single can also be happy because I've got other plans for life.

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author avatar jkalwaye
21st Aug 2012 (#)

I think you now live as a warrior .fighting is the only motto in your heart .Life is beautiful .Life is thrilling.why do hide .jk

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author avatar IsabelleChan
21st Aug 2012 (#)

Well, you are right to a certain extent. I'm a fighter because I AM born to fight. I love being alone AND having a partner, it's just that I don't think people should whine about life when they are single. We can choose to be single OR occupied right? Either way life is beautiful and exciting for me.

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author avatar John Kolyav
25th Aug 2012 (#)

'Boredom in life, however, has nothing to do with your relationship status, but your lack of ambitions.'
True. I really was amzed at the article because what you have presented is the ideas I have. You presented them nicely. Well done! Lonley person may have to suffer, but, noble ambitions diminishes that suffering. Thanks for sharing.

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author avatar IsabelleChan
25th Aug 2012 (#)

Thank you, John. I really wish that this piece of writing could enlighten someone. It's good that you feel the same.

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author avatar John Kolyav
25th Aug 2012 (#)

Sure! I am confronting the society, being alone. Still, I will fight, I know the struggle is hard. Thanks for the article. What Mr. jk commented is also right in one way. But, there are many ways to the same goal!

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author avatar John Kolyav
25th Aug 2012 (#)

Thnks a lot for responding. This is a worthy subject to discuss. Anyway, I am happy to see that there are at least a few people who think in unison with my ways. regards,!

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author avatar IsabelleChan
25th Aug 2012 (#)

Yes, confronting the society can sometimes be hard, but the pain is worth it, as I have mentioned before. Being different means you'll have to be judged. Mr. jk does have a point, but I think he doesn't approve of singlehood from the very beginning.

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author avatar IsabelleChan
25th Aug 2012 (#)

I too agree that this is a worthy subject to discuss. Most people are merely following the crowd and never spare any time on thinking. It's also good to know that there are actually people who feel the same as I do.

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author avatar John Kolyav
25th Aug 2012 (#)

Following the opinion of the majority is easy. Opposing it brings in stress. But, a real genius cannot agree with everything what is accepted and practised by the crowd. Thanks

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author avatar Eric
23rd Oct 2012 (#)

Fantastic article about a very controversial subject. It reeks of ambition :)

Question, when did you first come up with the idea of "singlehood?"

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