How to be a Good New Mother

jennyjofay By jennyjofay, 30th Dec 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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To all young mothers and new mothers, don't worry about all the things not to do, just learn to be a good mother. Tips on how to be a good mother to your baby.

Good tips for new mothers

We all long to be good mothers. We wait a long time. Many of us little girls dream of being a mother someday. We want to be just like our Mommies. And we also want to do our own thing. After all, we can't be exactly like our mothers. When, you get married and have children, your lifestyle and daily life will be different.

I'm a seasoned mother of four children. How do you become a good mother? It takes time.

I think the biggest fear for many women who are expecting a child, or are thinking of having children, and want their own, often ponder the fears that they have. The first fear is of the labor experience. New mothers have never experienced it and are quite often scared and a bit apprehensive. We don't like needles and worry about the complications that can happen. With my fourth one, I suddenly found out I needed to have my first c-section, as the cord was wrapped around her neck. I was a little nervous, but went with the flow. I wanted her alive and not dead.

Another really big fear for a new mother upon birth and after, is the fear of not being a good mother. As a woman goes into the process and commits to having a child, she often worries about being the best mother that she can be. After all, raising a child is the hardest job there will ever be in this world. You are talking about 24/7 for the rest of your life. That's an eternity of raising a child.

Yes, they do eventually leave the nest, grow up and get their own life, but you will always be their parent and will always be able to teach them right from wrong even into adulthood and for the rest of their lives as long as you are in it. It's a forever thing.

So, new moms don't worry. You will have all the time in the world to be the best mother for your children. The most important thing you can do as a good mother, is to always be there for your children, put them as your top priority, and tell them that you care. Really listen to their needs and learn to grow as the great mother you are going to become.

You are there for them. This new baby is suddenly looking up with you with his or her big blue eyes, or maybe brown. Many babies are born with blue eyes and they can sometimes change color. My first son's did. Changed from blue to green or hazel.

Your baby is counting on you to love it to death and be there to take care of all his or her needs.

In the beginning it is clothing, changing diapers, giving them love and affection and making sure they are fed, get their much needed baby sleep and that they remain a happy and content baby. Yet, at the same time it can be a lot to take in. Sometimes new mothers and fathers can get tired by the new routine as they learn and grow.

It takes time and a lot of effort to be a good mother or father. Everyone can have a child, but it takes the good mother or father who really makes a tremendous effort to be all that they can be to their growing family. And even the best of parents make mistakes. Nobody is perfect.

And as your child grows, they need more interaction, so a good mother really makes the effort to get their children all the social interaction that they may need. And no two children are alike. What is good for one child isn't right for another. Every family has their own set of rules.

And as your child grows, in comes his or her mind of their own. You can only nurture them, teach them right from wrong and hope that they learn their life lessons. As they get older you can't control what they do. They are going to do it, no matter what. Never be forceful, if you just go with the flow that is great.

I've always been one for letting them do their thing. But you do need to set boundaries and rules that they need to abide by. Otherwise they could walk all over you. There needs to be some disipline and authority. It's good to be their friend, besides their mother, but you need to know when to set the rules and say, "Hey, I'm the parent here. You need to stop what you are doing."
And never get really angry, or use force. Years ago, kids used to get the belt. My mom did. Nowadays, people would go to jail for that. We've come a long way, since then. Light years ago.

And your first child is going to be your guinnea pig, while you learn what works for you.

Enjoy your baby! And more!

Jennifer Jo Fay

Copyrighted December 30, 2011

Check out my cool mommie blog, I just started. Mommie Dearest 101!

The paper doll with this picture is one I did of my daughter. She has a bunch of cool cooking, painting, school days and ballet pages.

See, there is also still some time for yourself too. Never stop being who you are for your children. You should never lose who you once were.


Mother, Mothers, Mothers Love, New Babies, New Baby, New Moms, Parenthood, Parenting, Parenting Advice, Parents, Young Moms

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I am a mother of four children, two boys and two girls. I am a paperdoll artist and a writer. I have published my first mystery novel, Black Roses and it is online at Barnes and Noble, Amazon, etc.. I like to write fiction, poetry, recipes and oth...(more)

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author avatar Jules Castillo
30th Dec 2011 (#)

and there are fathers to share the responsibility

thanks... i'll try not to scold my son.....

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author avatar Denise O
31st Dec 2011 (#)

'I chose' not to spank my children and I am doing the same with my grandson. I must agree with your advice on how to be there for your child. Words only a mother could speak of. Do you know why grandmas are so darn good...
We learned from our mistakes. We also have learned to not sweat the small stuff, just chill and enjoy them. Nice read. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar jennyjofay
31st Dec 2011 (#)

Thanks. This is the time for grandmas to get to have fun with their grandkids. Enjoy. And you are right all the little stuff is so minor. Sometimes people seem to be caught up in that.

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author avatar Rathnashikamani
1st Jan 2012 (#)

Wonderful guidelines for the loving mothers.

Happy new year!

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author avatar Rose*
13th Aug 2014 (#)

I guess you can only learn motherhood by doing it

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author avatar Butterfly38
26th May 2015 (#)

Well done! I found early motherhood a struggle, because most of the people advising me expected me to have a perfectly spotless house, and I was never allowed to make mistakes.
I became extremely unwell mentally because of this pressure on top of adjusting to being a mum.

However, I love all my children, and some times I still wish for the dirty nappies, baby clothes, late nights and the baby mess which got on my clothes!

My children are older now, and happily after much work on my self-esteem which was taken from me, I am enjoying being a parent despite their ages!

I have even learned, parenting doesn't stop when they reach 20.

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