How to Know If He's the One For You

Connie McKinneyStarred Page By Connie McKinney, 9th Sep 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Dating can be difficult in today's world. Here are four tips on how to tell if he's husband material or not.

His Family Relationships

Finding Mr. Right isn't easy. Half of all marriages end in divorce. However, if you pay attention to your boyfriends' background, lifestyle and habits; you should be able to tell if he's the one for you
Pay attention to his family relationships. Ask if you can meet his parents. Notice how he talks to and treats his parents. Does he seem comfortable and relaxed around them? Does he frequently get into arguments with his parents? That's not a good sign.
Does he call his parents frequently if they live out of town? Does he visit them for holidays and other special occasions? Be careful if he's estranged from one or both parents unless there's a good reason such as abuse.
Notice how he treats his mother and his sisters, if he has any. The way he treats the women in his life is a major clue in how he will treat you.
Finally, notice how he treats the children in his life such as nieces and nephews. If he's not afraid to get down on the carpet and play cars with the 4-year-old, that means he'll probably make a great father - another good sign.

How He treats Others

How does he treat other people? Is he nice to you but rude to the waitress when you two go out to dinner? Does he hold the door for other people? A man with nice manners will make a better husband than a rude, self-centered man.
How does he treat you? Is he kind, encouraging and respectful? Or does he constantly criticize you and put you down? If he does, he's not the one for you.
Pay attention to how he acts when something doesn't go as planned or something goes wrong. For example, I remember how excited I was the first time I was going to celebrate the birthday of my then boyfriend, Joe. We had plans to go to our local St. Patrick's Day parade and then attend some post-parade parties. Instead, I got a stomach bug overnight and had to cancel. He rang the doorbell to my apartment and brought me medicine, ginger ale and soup. Joe could have been out having fun with family and friends but he changed his plans so he could take care of me.
Notice how patient or impatient he is with other people. When the two of you are driving somewhere and you get stuck in a traffic jam, does he just laugh or shrug it off? Or does he get impatient and upset and lean on his horn? Rude driving is an epidemic in today's society. However, a guy who gets impatient easily and loses his temper quickly may have anger issues and may be prone to violence.
See how he treats other creatures in his life. If you catch him yelling at or hitting his dog, you should be wary of him. Abusers often start with animals and then move on to humans.
If he's kind to other creatures, then he is probably a kind human being. Once, I was out hiking with Joe. We were about to cross the road to get to a pond. A tiny turtle had the same idea. Joe picked up the turtle and carried him across the road so the turtle would not get hit by a car.

His Drinking Habits

Most guys enjoy a beer once in a while, and that's normal. However, watch out if he can't get through a meal without a drink or if he is a heavy drinker. This could indicate that he's addicted to alcohol.
If you suspect he is an alcoholic, try to get him help such as counseling or joining Alcoholics Anonymous. However, he has to want to change. Too many women marry men with alcohol or violence problems believing they can change or "save" him. You can't.

His Living and Employment Situation

Look for someone with a steady job. If he has a habit of changing jobs frequently, he may be trouble. This could mean he has difficulty getting along with others, anger problems or just immature.
He should have a steady place to live. Unless he's just moved to town, he should be living in the same place for at least a year. If he has lived in several different places in the last year, he may be irresponsible, immature or have difficulty handling money. None of these are good signs.
Always remember that nobody is perfect, and there is no way to be 100 percent sure that this is the right relationship for you. Just remember to pay attention to his family relationships, the way he treats others, his drinking habits and his job and living situation. If you spot any of these red flags, either get him into counseling and try to resolve the issue or break it off. You deserve better.

Here is an article I did about online dating:
Here is one I did on how to have a great first date:


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The tips I shared came from my own experiences with dating along with those of friends and family.


Dating, Dating Advice, Dating Dos And Donts, Dating Tips, Relationships, Romance, Romantic Love

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
10th Sep 2013 (#)

These are very helpful words for all who are embarking on a new relationship Connie .
god bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar Connie McKinney
10th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks, Stella. I hope it helps.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
10th Sep 2013 (#)

I've been married 11 years. This is good advice!

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author avatar Connie McKinney
10th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks, Phyl. It worked for me.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
11th Sep 2013 (#)

we will never know if he/she is right or wrong for us...just do the very best we can in all relationships...thank you Connie....

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author avatar Connie McKinney
11th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks, Carolina. You are right; just do the best you can and hope for the best.

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author avatar drrajeevddn
11th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks :)

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author avatar vpaulose
13th Sep 2013 (#)

Thank you Connie for this nice post on relationship.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
13th Sep 2013 (#)

Thanks,Vpaulose. Hope it's helpful to folks.

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