How to Inspire Children to have High Moral Conduct

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I would find out where the child learned stealing from, and where we parents have failed in inspiring the child to be of high moral conduct? In fact, the parents inspiration should be so strong that the child does not pick up any bad characteristic from any source.

A Million Dollar Question

A friend asked me, "What would you do if you caught your chid stealing money from your purse/wallet ?" In response, I forwarded the following reply -
"I would find out where the child learned stealing from, and where we parents have failed in inspiring the child to be of high moral conduct? In fact, the parents inspiration should be so strong that the child does not pick up any bad characteristic from any source. For this, they must adopt the highest moral standards in their lives and let the child understand their significance."
This became the background of writing this page, to elucidate my viewpoint in detail with respect to this very crucial question to the future of humanity. Long before this question and the answer, I had written an article 'Sources of One's Inspirations' which is also relevant to this question.

Guides of the Children

All those persons who inspire a child, thus molding his/her character and conduct, are guides of the child, with the first naturally authorized guide being his/her mother followed by the father. As the child grows, more persons come in contact with the child, each one influencing the child's conduct. This influence of others on the child goes on diminishing as the child grows up and has his/her own wisdom, intellect and experience to determine his/her own conduct. This makes social contacts of the child less effective. Therefore the prime factors of molding the child's conduct are primary contacts in the role of his/her parents, the sources of his genesis on the earth.
Since my living in a village in India for over one decade, I have been insisting upon villagers to conduct themselves within moral parameters to inspire their respective children to have good conducts and characters under inspirations from them and make healthy progress in their lives through concentrating on their education and later in their respective professions. I can't claim yet to have a considerable change in mindset of the villagers, yet my efforts continue and their influence trickling down.
As a routine practice, whenever, I come to know about parents having bad habits or conducts, I go to them to request amends for inspiring their children not to pick up bad things from any source. When I hear some child in the village behaving badly, I again go to his/her parents to request them to monitor and regulate the child’s conduct in a positive way through inspirations from their own conducts.

Genetic Inheritance and Conduct

Apart from guiding and inspiring the children as their most important duty and responsibility towards humanity, parents' characteristics influence those of their children through inheritance of genetic information also. If, these information influence the children in good ways, the parents have the responsibility of maintaining the goodness and not corrupting these through inspirations from their bad conducts. On the other hand, if the genetic inheritance is suspicious, the parents have the additional responsibility of overcoming this bad influence on the children by positive guidance and their own conducts of very high moral standards.
A genetic inheritance can not be wiped out but can certainly be suppressed. The genetically inherited traits make characteristics of the child - an internal feature of his/her overall personality. But conduct of a person is not under direct control of his/her characteristics, and it may be different for the child's current circumstantial factors. What is realized by others is not the person's characteristics but his/her conduct. Therefore, conduct of a person has a greater significance outwardly than that of his/her characteristics. The parents must pay attention to how the child conducts him/herself while dealing with others, rather than what characteristics the child owns through inheritance.

Amending the Child's Conduct

In any case, children can’t be blamed if they display immoral conducts, and they must be compassionately advised to refrain themselves from such things. As far as a child is concerned, his/her immoral conduct is not his/her own gift to him/herself but that of somebody else in his/her contact. Again, the parents have the responsibility of isolating the child from the source of misguidance and wiping out the bad influence through their own good conducts.
This provides the answer to the basic question cited above, that instead of punishing the child caught stealing money, it must be traced why he/she behaved in such a way followed by a three step strategy –
1. Isolate the child from the source of the bad influence,
2. Wipe off the bad influence through compassionate guidance, and
3. Inspiring the child with a conduct of high moral standard.

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Character, Children, Conduct, Genetic, Guide, Habit, Inheritance, Inspiration, Morality, Parents

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author avatar Ram Bansal
An Engineer in the wonderland of Authorship, principally for authoring eBooks. My writings principally focus on psychology, Indian politics, philosophy, health and happiness in routine ways.

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author avatar brendamarie
19th Jul 2015 (#)

Being a parent does not when i child turns 18. You keep teaching them their whole life. Great article.

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author avatar M G Singh
20th Jul 2015 (#)

Very interesting and relavent post

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author avatar WOGIAM
20th Jul 2015 (#)

Thank you for sharing your 3 step strategy, as a parent, i would personally be inclined to disciple the child, which would be a form of deterrent.

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