How To Help Children Control Anger

Connie McKinneyStarred Page By Connie McKinney, 19th Nov 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Children often have difficulty controlling their anger. Teach your child how to express anger in a healthy way and to control their tempers.

Learn How to Express Feelings


The 3-year-old couldn't wait to play a board game with his 5-year-old brother. But when he lost the game, he became upset and hurled the game pieces across the living room.
Like many children, this boy has trouble expressing angry feelings appropriately. He has no idea how to deal with his angry feelings. That's where parents come in. They can teach their child how to control their tempers and handle the angry feelings with grace.
Parents should never stifle their child's anger. Anger is a normal emotion experienced by everyone at one time or another. It's OK if your child gets angry - as long as he or she doesn't yell, break objects or hit others.
Instead, teach your child how to express feelings. Children often become angry as a default emotion when they are actually feeling scared, anxious or upset. Let your child draw faces and identify the feeling. For example, what does a scared face look like? What do you feel when you're scared? What scares you?
Here are some more tips on helping children learn to express anger:

Take a Deep Breath


This piece of advice is a cliche but it really works. If the child is facing an upsetting situation such as losing a game, have the child take a deep breath and slowly count to ten. This gives the child some time to calm down and avoid acting impulsively.
Teach your children yoga breathing. Have them sit still in a quiet place, breathe in and out and focus on their breath. Tell them to take a deep, yoga breath when they are feeling upset or stressed.
If possible, have the child walk away from the situation or get help from a teacher or another adult. . An adult can help resolve a problem with bullying or other issues which arise between children.

Set a Good Example


While driving, do you honk your horn a lot? Do you raise your voice a lot? Do you lose your patience and temper while waiting in line?
Remember that you are your child's first teacher. Children are always watching and listening to parents. If anger is a problem for you, it will be a problem for them. If you are calm and easygoing, they will follow in your footsteps.
Teaching children how to handle anger takes patience but is worth doing. It sure beats running around and picking up the game pieces scattered on your living room floor.

Here is a story I did on teaching children empathy

Attirbution


The photo came from Morguefile.
The video came from YouTube.
This article used some techniques I've used in my work with helping children deal with angry feelings.
This article was rewritten and reformatted from one I previously wrote for Yahoo Voices.

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Anger, Anger Management, Anger Management Skills, Anger Management Tips, Anger Problems

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Humorous way to end the article. Nice.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Thanks so much, Phyl.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
20th Nov 2013 (#)

The sooner the better in creating a certain control in our childrens anger manageent, its for their good health in the long run, nice one Connie!

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author avatar Mariah
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Interesting article Connie.
I was really fortunate with my two girls, never had to deal with a 'hissy fit' from either of them, but I've seen kids in shops throw themselves on the floor, head banging in anger, when they hear the word 'no', and the poor parents helpless and cringing with embarrassment.
In various situations, as you rightly say, there can often be an underlying reason for the
loss of control, so patience is very important.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Thanks so much, Fern. Excellent points.

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author avatar Connie McKinney
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Yes, patience really is a virtue, Mariah. Well said. Thanks so much.

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author avatar C.D. Moore
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Well said!

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author avatar Connie McKinney
20th Nov 2013 (#)

Thanks so much, C.D.

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author avatar Stella Mitchell
22nd Nov 2013 (#)

This is a very needy subject in today's stress filled life for many young people . Sometimes , talking through the things that cause the anger can be a help dear Connie ...but of course , when everything has calmed enough to do so .
God bless you
Stella ><

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author avatar Connie McKinney
22nd Nov 2013 (#)

Great suggestions, Stella. Thanks for sharing.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Nov 2013 (#)

Thanks Connie for the tips. Children are easier to handle than stubborn teenagers. I used to tell my son I was with him through thick and thin and hence nothing to worry and that helped him. And setting an example is most important which i do - I don't get angry at all - it is not worth the effort! siva

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author avatar Connie McKinney
25th Nov 2013 (#)

Siva, you are so right and so wise as usual. Setting the example is the best thing to do.

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author avatar Legend
9th Dec 2013 (#)

Good, informative

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