How To Ask A Guy Out For A Date

Charlene Nuble By Charlene Nuble, 16th Nov 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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The modernity of the times has made asking a guy out for a date no longer taboo, but actually acceptable. If you’re unsure how to make your move, without looking desperate, here are some tips.

Asking A Guy Out For A Date

Asking a guy out for a date can be a very daunting task, but it is not impossible to do. The only thing that you need to have to be able to pull something like this off is a whole lot of confidence. Although it is not the common thing to do, asking a guy out has its share of advantages and disadvantages. In order to successfully ask a guy out, you need to consider a few important factors that will dictate the outcome of your actions. Here are a few helpful hints on how you can ask a guy out for a date.

Be Confident

No matter how well you can smooth talk a person, if you are just not confident enough, then your whole act of asking a guy out will not end up successful. Keep in mind that the important trait to possess in these types of situations is confidence.

You need to believe you can and show it to the person you are asking out, in order to make him say ‘yes’ to your proposal. Your level of confidence can affect your performance, so make sure that you, at least, appear like doing this doesn’t make your heart leap out of your mouth.

Don’t Beat Around The Bush

If you want to ask a guy out for a date, then ask the guy out! Avoid beating around the bush, for the guy may get your signals and messages mixed up, and end up not understanding what you are really trying to ask him. People have a tendency to not understand what other people are trying to say if they just keep diverting the subject, expecting the other person to read between the lines. Be frank, and tell them exactly what you want to say.


Don’t try to anticipate the asking too much, for it will only make things a whole lot tougher than it needs to be. You are only building up your anxiety and nervousness even if there is no need for you to. It is alright to try and imagine what possible scenarios may happen during your asking, but keep in mind that you will not exactly know what will happen unless it happens. So, relax and don’t lose sleep over it.

Don’t Appear Too Eager

A girl who appears too eager to go on a date with a guy seems desperate, so avoid looking so enthusiastic by asking the guy in a calm and casual manner. Don’t hype it up too much, or you will only end up freaking the guy out and pushing him away. Just talk to him the way you would normally talk to other people, so as not to put any pressure on both of you, and just casually ask him if he would like to go on a date with you.

Whatever the outcome of your asking a guy out would be, just remember that his reply has no bearing on who you really are.

Don’t think that you are less of a person if a guy turns you down

Remember that when asking people out in general, there is a possibility that people will say no, and that is just typical not just for you, but for everyone else, as well. Rejection is a part of the whole process, so be sure that you are prepared to experience some before you decide to ask someone out for a date.

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Charlene Nuble is a health care professional who loves writing about parenting, women's issues, health and other stuffs that interest her.

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author avatar Paul Lines
16th Nov 2010 (#)

That works for me Charlene :) Great advice

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author avatar Erik Van Tongerloo
17th Nov 2010 (#)

Great advice

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author avatar Denise O
4th Dec 2010 (#)

Wonderful advice Charlene.
This is a must too for all women dating.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar angelnjuly
28th Dec 2010 (#)

Nice tip Char~ thanks for the share

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author avatar Claire
2nd Mar 2012 (#)

This always seemed to helped me ask guys out

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