Guide your child

Sofia By Sofia, 13th Mar 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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We simply use the word DON'T to guid our children in critical situations. But in these situations the children realy don't know what to do next. So we want to guid them in a positive manner.

Don't do that!

"Sara, don't spill the milk."
"Tim, don't run in the room."
"John, don't stand on the chair."
"Joe, don't hit Sara."
"Sally, don't rock the chair."
Normally parents use these sort of sentences to guid their children. But small children
realy don't know what to do for instead. So the children continue the same action. In these situations the parents start to thing that their children are not obedient. So they scold their children or punish their children. If the parents guid their children in this manner the problem won't be solved. We must accept one thing. The children are children. They don't know so many things. Ant they also forget the rules, which they learnt, easily. Parents must have patience to remind them again and again.

The positive manner

5 year old Sara is spilling a little milk while poring it into a cup. When the mother says, "Sara don't spill the milk," Sara don't know what to do to stop spilling. If the mother says, "Sara, hold your cup tightly," or "Stop poring the milk," that will be easy for 5 year old Sara to obey. we can say
"Tim, walk in the room."instead of "Tim, don't run."
"John sit on the chair," instead of "John, don't stand on the chair."

Now what can we say instead of "Joe, don't hit Sara," and "Sally, don't rock the chair,"?
Finding the answer is not easy. If it is difficult for adults, that will be more difficult for children. So the parents must thing before speaking to the children.

Most of the parents are used to use DON'T tecnique because, it is the easiest method. but this tecnique never helps the children. If anybody undrestands or accepts that this Tecnique is wrong, that is also not enough. Because most of the people use this tecnique without their knowledge. There are used to speak in this manner.

So; if you want to avoid don't tecnique in your life, you must train yourself again and again.

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Child, Children, Guidance, Kids

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Retired Teacher. Child care giver. Hobby: Writing for children and parents.

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author avatar Shamini
24th Mar 2010 (#)

Good work.

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author avatar Marlin
24th Mar 2010 (#)

well done

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author avatar Thamira
28th Mar 2010 (#)

nice story

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author avatar Jihyun park
6th May 2010 (#)

I totally agree with you.

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author avatar Sofia
6th May 2010 (#)

Thankyou for your comment

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author avatar Euphonos
21st Jun 2010 (#)

gud work...keep writing

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author avatar Sandeep
21st Jun 2010 (#)

Good work...
keep it up
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author avatar smoothoperator
7th Aug 2010 (#)

Makes absolute sense.

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author avatar hieroglyph
11th Dec 2010 (#)

An article with a purpose! Good read...

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author avatar Sofia
4th Jan 2011 (#)

Thank you for your comment

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
30th Nov 2014 (#)

Use positive approach to make them think and react than suppress the children. Good advice - siva

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