Grandparenting: Is it the same as yester years?

Nan Joe By Nan Joe, 7th Apr 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/1ht1o_9v/
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Today's grandparents are far much younger, have more education and are more healthier than their forerunners. They are also more involved in their grandchildren's well being than before.

Is it the same as yester years?

When you think about grand parents, do you think about grey haired women in rocking chairs or bald men talking endlessly about the “good old days”? These stereotypes are changing as baby boomers are becoming grandparents at a record pace. Today, the average age of first time grandparents is around 50 – and this is definitely not old by today’s standards and one third of today’s grandparents are under 55. As a group, today’s grandparents are healthier and more active than their forerunners and they have fewer grandchildren, higher incomes, and more education.

Active Involvement

What this often means is that grandparents are very much involved in their grandchildren’s lives. Many grandparents say they are extremely close to their grandchildren and many say that they also help out financially. Grandparents provide even more assistance in cultures such as rural China where they often assume domestic chores so young women can work outside the home. But even in industrialized countries, grandparents are important resources for their children. Many factors influence whether grandparents are highly involved, warm but only somewhat involved. Grand parents who are supportive tend to be more educated, live closer to their children and have fewer grandchildren while detached grandparents tend to be from the father’s side of the family, live farther away and have more grandchildren.

How they cope

Many grandparents act as safety nets in the midst of troubled communities and families. In one study, over 40 percent of grandparents who had assumed responsibility for their grandchildren did so because the children’s mothers were drug users or had neglected their children. Many of these grandparents struggle to provide the care their grandchildren need. Ina addition, many are coping with their grandchildren’s emotional, intellectual or physical disabilities that stem from their parents neglect, physical or drug abuse.
A small number of grandparents become isolated from their families when they are denied visits after their children die or divorce. In the United States, children who are raised solely by their grandparents are more than twice as likely as children who reside with parents and grandparents to live in poverty.

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Children, Coping, Grandchildren, Grandparents, Healthier Involvement

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author avatar Jerry Walch
7th Apr 2011 (#)

I am a grandparent, seven times over. Actually I do not think that anything is the way it was back in the days of yore. The cahnges have taken place on both sides. the way children perceive parents and grand parents have changed drastically just as the way parents and grandparents perceive their children and grand children have changed drastically.

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author avatar Nan Joe
7th Apr 2011 (#)

Yes, things have changed alot from the grandparents we knew. All the same I love my two grandchildren although I know see them much for they live far from me. Thanks Jerry for your comment.

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author avatar foxpete88
7th Apr 2011 (#)

good article and thanks for sharing.-

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author avatar Nan Joe
7th Apr 2011 (#)

Thank you foxpete88.

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author avatar Songbird B
8th Apr 2011 (#)

Great article, Nan Joe. My Grandparents passed when I was a baby, so I never knew them, and realise how much I have missed out on not having them in my life...Thank you for sharing this...

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author avatar Nan Joe
9th Apr 2011 (#)

Thanks Songbird B. Yes grandparents are important because they have a special kind of relationship.

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author avatar WordWulf
9th Apr 2011 (#)

This was a good read. It really hit home with me because I lived in Colorado all my life and saw my five kids whenever I wanted. Two years ago I married Kathy and have to live in California for a few years. I don't fly so drive the 1400 miles to visit every few months when we can afford it. I have six grandchildren and one due any day now. I miss those little guys and am eager to move back where I belong.

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author avatar Nan Joe
9th Apr 2011 (#)

I truly understand how you feel Grandchildren are are very precious to us.

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author avatar Blossom S
9th Apr 2011 (#)

interesting topic indeed.xx

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author avatar Nan Joe
15th Apr 2011 (#)

Thanks Blossom S

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author avatar Denise O
14th Apr 2011 (#)

My grandson Tristan will be a year old next month. I find being a Grammy a wonderful experience. I learned from the best, my Nana was 100 years old when she passed and just a gem I tell you. I have had the pleasure to watch my kids with their grandparents and I am so proud of how they are with them, just like I was with my grandparents, just totally in love with them and could not wait to see them. I do hope I can fill the Grammy slot as well as my Nana and Grandma did. I do believe things have changed a bit though, We are more able to help monetarily more so then my grandparents were. Nice read. Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Nan Joe
15th Apr 2011 (#)

I am sure you make a wonderful Grandma. I have two myself seven and three year olds and I just feel excited whenever I talk with them. We are a generation of young grandparents and it makes a difference on our outlook in life.

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author avatar Javrsmith
11th May 2011 (#)

I'm under 50 and a grandfather. It's great!

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author avatar xphantoms
1st May 2012 (#)

Like article, good job

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
24th Oct 2014 (#)

Grandparents are always so loving and eager to be useful. They chip in whenever needed. Yes, time has taken a toll as lifestyles have changed in Asia too. They try to adapt to a changing world; we are blessed to have them around - siva

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