Friends Who Die Before You Do.

Janey1966 By Janey1966, 10th Dec 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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It Can Be Hard To Take When All Your Pals Die Before You Do

On/Off Friendship That Is No More

I feel so sorry for my Dad right now. One of his last remaining friends died of a massive heart attack during a check-up at the hospital on Wednesday. He has been going to hospital for check-ups since having a heart triple by-pass operation 25 years ago. He was only 60 but looked much older. My Dad is 73.

Now, the friend in question (Brian) could actually be a pain and wasn't the most popular of people as he liked to wind everyone up. It was his hobby. He didn't like women either and treated his wife like dirt. However, he was one of my Dad's last remaining friends that would (sometimes) give him lifts to the shops and ring him daily, giving him horse-racing tips and such-like.

Mum still works during the week so my Dad is on his own up until she returns at around 1.30pm. Brian would both annoy him and keep him company all at the same time. He would take great delight in "knocking him back" when my Dad least expected it. He would sulk if my Dad spoke his mind. They were an entertaining double-act.

All that is now gone. I am 100 miles away so can do nothing. I will see him a week from now and the first thing I shall do is give him a big hug and say, "I'm so sorry Dad."

Yes, Brian was a pain but he is no longer around to be a pain. However, my Mum told me that Dad was struggling with the shopping and no-one down the street helped out. I guess he has no friends left now.

A friend who can be unpredictable is better than having no friends at all.


Bereavement, Death, Friendship

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author avatar Janey1966
Currently I am unemployed so I have a lot of time on my hands. However, I feel I need to be on the internet, communicating with others, giving advice, making people laugh and, hopefully become well-respected on wikinut.

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author avatar Denise O
11th Dec 2010 (#)

My heart goes out to your Dad and you too, sorry hon.
Have y'all checked into any senior centers around your area.
Some times they will even come and pick him up a few times a week. '
So he will be able to just hang out and play games, chat with folks and such.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Janey1966
11th Dec 2010 (#)

Well, my Dad is what you would call a "social drinker." The only reason he goes into his local Working Men's Club is to chat over a pint. Unfortunately, he is running out of friends to do this with as they have all died. I suppose he could go elsewhere but the Club is the nearest and what he is used to (as he is a creature of habit) but my Mum is there when she is not at work, so he isn't on his own 24/7, thankfully.

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author avatar James R. Coffey
13th Dec 2010 (#)

Hummm . . .

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author avatar Humza
15th Jan 2011 (#)

Really having such a caring friend although sometimes annoying but still his presence is the greatest blessings one can ever be blessed with!! I guess its a msg for all those who are unable or willing try to avoid realizing their best pals, plz realize them and acknowledge their love and care for u before its tooo late!
thnx alot for such a nice share!
hope u had a good time with dad

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