Forgiveness, it’s the Only Way

waterhorse By waterhorse, 13th Nov 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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The power of forgiveness and the ability we have to heal ourselves

Healing is your responsibility

I wish most of us would realize that when someone hurts you, at some point in your life you need to eventually let it go. An apology or an acknowledgement from them that they hurt you is wonderful but not necessary for you to heal. That is your responsibility.

The best remedy for betrayal, a broken heart, a cruel remark

Forgiveness is the answer. Forgive them because they are who they are. Once you do that, you'll be free of your pain. Don't worry about them. They need to heal on their own. People hurt you because of their own issues. It is their problem and their life. We are all responsible for our own lives.

Grudges

Every time that I’ve held a grudge, it felt like a heavy weight on my heart. The longer it stayed, the more pain it caused. It finally got so I couldn’t stand it anymore. When I finally let the grudge go, it freed me of all the negative energy I had been consuming.

Cain and Abel

Two brothers I know have been feuding for about twenty years. I’m sure they don’t even remember how it all started. When their mother died, they shared a few words, then went back to feuding. After a while they forgot why they were angry to begin with, they only remembered that they were angry and it was their brother's fault.

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
― Mahatma Gandhi,

A whole life wasted on wanting an apology

I know a 60 year old man who constantly complains that his father didn't show him love and acceptance. He wants his father to understand and acknowledge what he did. My friend won't accept the fact that his father will never change. His father will never get it. He’s 90 years old and he will never get it.

Letting people go

Sometimes when people are a negative force in our lives, we have to let them go. This is hard when you've known and loved them for a long time. Forgive them, remember the good memories and move on.

The end result- happiness

So why do people wish to hold onto their hurt? Either they are masochists or they enjoy feeling sorry for themselves. I want to be happy- so that is my goal. No one can take away my happiness because I won't let them.

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author avatar waterhorse
I am a middle aged woman recently engaged with a BA in Human Services. My passion is writing. I have a Storytelling Group on Facebook with 48 members. I write about philosophy and psychology mostly.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
13th Nov 2013 (#)

Good points. When our conscience is clear nothing should hurt us - that is the way I move on. There are people always trying to point fingers at us due to their shortcomings. We have to move on away from them - siva

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author avatar Michelle Stanley
13th Nov 2013 (#)

This is very meaningful. Hate can build up and fester within a person, and words do hurt. I agree with the message conveyed in this article. Michelle

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author avatar waterhorse
13th Nov 2013 (#)

Thank you Siva and Michelle

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author avatar MarilynDavisatTIERS
13th Nov 2013 (#)

Good morning, Waterhorse. I have always believed that I would not receive what I was unwilling to give and that includes forgiveness. Getting into recovery 25 years ago, I wanted forgiveness from my daughters, yet found myself reluctant to forgive me own parents. When I forgave them, it was shortly afterwards that II received forgiveness. I feel something akin to pity for those who withhold what they desperately want but do not understand the workings of spiritual give and receive. ~Marilyn

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author avatar waterhorse
13th Nov 2013 (#)

Thank you for sharing that Marilyn. I'm happy that you were able to forgive your parents and that your daughters were able to forgive you! Take care.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
14th Nov 2013 (#)

Nicely done, waterhorse. So true that forgiveness is about healing YOU.

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author avatar Hanson
17th Nov 2013 (#)

Nice post

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
17th Nov 2013 (#)

Well written!

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