Father's Day Flip

MCayou By MCayou, 15th Jun 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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A shift from traditional holiday behavior for the better of all.

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Father’s Day Flip
Today is Father’s Day here in the U.S.; a day reserved to pay respect and deference, show appreciation and affection toward that man who had very little to do with bringing us into this world, but ideally a whole lot to do with how we turn out as adults. Sadly, any male with a pulse can do all that is required of a male to create a child, with a willing and often just as sad a partner, but even he is allowed to reap the benefits that the wholly commercially masticated day offers, that is if said child wants anything to do with him – but I digress.

Traditionally, children will provide gifts to father, treat him with a heightened level of positive attention, and accept that he gets to do anything he wants. Mom often orchestrates these efforts on behalf of child, who may not be able to personally contribute, but receives all the credit and thanks, but with a wink in Mom’s direction from Dad. So Dad feels like king of the world, is waited on hand and foot, naps the afternoon away in front of the television if he wishes, and basically wastes the day.

What if the Father’s Day paradigm was turned on its head? What if fathers were expected to make the day as enjoyable as possible for those kids he is tasked with raising? What if the focus shifted from Dad being king of the world to making his kids feel like kings and queens of the world? After all, he wouldn’t be a dad without them. The deadbeat dads would go out of their way to start to make amends. The absent dads would move mountains to make a simple contact that would let that child know dad cared. The abusive and neglectful fathers would be struck with the force of a thunderbolt and realize the errors of their ways and be given the insight to properly parent.

Sounds out of the question, right? Yeah, dads doing what they should be doing out of the pure privilege of being a father for just one more special day is absurd. I guess that perspective only appears once it is much too late.

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Expectations, Family, Fathers Day, Fathers Love, Holidays

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As a retired English teacher, I have much to say on topics from education to psychology to societal influences.

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author avatar WOGIAM
16th Jun 2014 (#)

I hope you had a good Father's day yesterday.

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author avatar MCayou
16th Jun 2014 (#)

It turned out to be wonderful. Thanks for reading and commenting.
MC

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