Establish Strong Wedding Traditions to Strengthen Marriages

William Fullmer DVM By William Fullmer DVM, 30th Dec 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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Since the beginning of our history the Lord has sanctioned marriage. My family’s wedding traditions since the 1840’s have centered on eternal marriage.

Eternal Marriage: A Family Tradition

Since the beginning of our history the Lord has sanctioned marriage. In Genesis, Moses recorded the Lord as saying “…It is not good that the man should be alone;…1” He was also clear that marriage was to be a lasting relationship between a husband and wife. “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh2.” Jesus Christ himself quoted this scripture and then added “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder3.” Paul reiterated this teaching in his epistle to the Ephesians (See Ephesians 5:31 KJV).

My family’s wedding traditions since the 1840’s have centered on eternal marriage, solemnized in a temple of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. My family first joined the Church in the 1830’s and central to Church doctrine is that families can be sealed to live together for an eternity, and not just until death do we part. The Preacher who wrote Ecclesiastes concluded that, “I know that, whatsoever God doeth, it shall be forever: nothing can be put to it, nor any thing taken from it: and God doeth it…4”. Jesus promised Peter that “…I will give unto thee the keys of the kingdom of heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever thou shalt loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.5”.

We believe that it is through this authority that a couple can be sealed or bound together for an eternity, but the marriage must be performed in one of our temples that are dedicated in part for that purpose, by an officiator who holds those “keys”.

The first temple any of my family members was married in was the Nauvoo Temple in Nauvoo Illinois on December 15, 1845. Through succeeding generations we have tried to hold true to the tradition of a temple marriage. The particular temple is not important, most of our family members are married in the temple nearest to where they reside. In the early history of our church family members sometimes had to travel great distances to marry in a temple.

When my paternal grandparents married in the 1930’s they had to travel to Salt Lake City Utah, from Idaho as that was the nearest temple. Marrying in a temple has become much easier in recent years since the number of temples being built has increased significantly. “Eighty-five percent of the membership of the Church now live within 200 miles (320 km) of a temple, and for a great many of us, that distance is much shorter6.”

I am happy to say that, 25 years ago, my wife and I continued this tradition when we were married in the Idaho Falls Idaho Temple, and my oldest daughter was married two and a half years ago in the Portland Oregon Temple. My wife and I are looking forward to the day that we will see our other two children and hopefully grandchildren and great grandchildren married in a temple.

The faith and sacrifice of my family in establishing temple marriage as a sacred family tradition has been a great blessing in my life. It has taught me the lasting nature of the relationship between me and my wife and I therefore do all I can to be the kind of person she would like to spend and eternity with. It also motives me to be a better father.

Whatever your religious beliefs are I encourage you to establish traditions that will help to communicate the importance of marriage to your family. I believe strong marriage traditions are instrumental in strengthening marriages and by extension families, which improves every aspect of our lives and our society.

1. Genesis 2:18 KJV

2. Genesis 2:24 KJV

3. Mark 10:9 KJV

4. Ecclesiastes 3:14 KJV

5. Mathew 16:19 KJV

6. The Holy Temple—a Beacon to the World Thomas S. Monson Liahona May 2011


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Dr. Fullmer graduated from Washington State University with a Doctor of Veterinary Medicine degree. He also graduated from the University of Idaho with a bachelor's degree in Veterinary Sciences and f

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