Essential for a Truthful Relationship

Ram Bansal By Ram Bansal, 1st Jul 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3cvg53eb/
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a person usually has three images - his/her reality, projection and perception of another person. This does not allow any harmonious relationships of the person unless he/she harmonizes within him/herself.

Personality Projection and Perception

With freedom from relationships, persons rarely project their realities of personality traits. Usually, a person projects himself to others as something different from his/her reality under pressure of conformism from the society for the lack of courage in him/herself of facing the conformist society and fear of getting isolated. He/she displays him/herself as an individual well-fitting in the society. This image of the person, I call, is projected personality. Such persons kill their consciences and act differently from their own convictions and hence never find contentment in life.
The false projection of personality creates a weak impression on others, therefore others perceive the person in accordance to their own conveniences in purely subjective manners. These perceptions are often different from both the person's reality as well as his/her projected personality. In reference to another, I call this perception as perceived personality of the person.
Thus, a person usually has three images - his/her reality, projection and perception of another person. This does not allow any harmonious relationships of the person unless he/she harmonizes within him/herself.

Pseudo Relationship

With persons having projections and perceptions different from their realities, all social interactions too are not real but faked ones. Instead of a person interacting by him/herself, he/she interacts through his/her projected image with his/her perception of another person in the interaction. The other person too interacts in a similar way. Such an interaction proves that there is no real interaction between two such persons, and hence no relationship comes into existence.

What Happens in a Real Relationship

A direct interaction begins with projection of reality of oneself by both in a relationship with each trusting the other. However, if deficiency of trust exists for some reason, the mutual perceptions may be different from realities of each other, making the interaction false again, in-spite of real projections of both the selves.
In a real relationship, both the persons project their realities to each other thus making stronger mutual impressions of themselves. With mutual trusts, these strong impressions prevent false and subjective perceptions of each other, making the perceptions matching the respective realities. Thus, each person, in a real relationship, has a unified composed image of his/her personality, making the interaction direct and truthful.
Thus, it is not only the projection of reality is important but existence of mutual trust too is essential for both the partners of a relationship. For this, both the partners must desist from creating situations that may cause mistrust between the two and win trust of each other through conscious efforts.

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Conformist, Harmony, Image, Perception, Personality, Projection, Relationship, Society, Trust

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author avatar Ram Bansal
An Engineer in the wonderland of Authorship, principally for authoring eBooks. My writings principally focus on psychology, Indian politics, philosophy, health and happiness in routine ways.

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author avatar Retired
2nd Jul 2015 (#)

To make relationship work, hard work and commitment are needed coming from both parties.

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