Ending a relationship

sanjay chauhan By sanjay chauhan, 8th Oct 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2uegmvlq/
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Allow time to prepare mentally and emotionally. Imagine the future, then plan and organize what you can so the transition is not too traumatic. Have the courage to tell your partner you believe the relationship is over. Talk this through on multiple occasions to allow time for both of you to process it.

Ending a relationship

How to break up with dignity and mutual respect.

Start slowly

Allow time to prepare mentally and emotionally. Imagine the future, then plan and organize what you can so the transition is not too traumatic. Have the courage to tell your partner you believe the relationship is over. Talk this through on multiple occasions to allow time for both of you to process it.


Expect a roller-coaster

Your emotions may swing from moment to moment. There may be the exhilaration of new freedom, then the grief for what has been lost or the terror of what is to come. Avoid addictive behaviors that mask this process. Be gentle with yourself and keep some routine going to maintain stability.


Reflect

Don't carry baggage into your next relationship. It takes two to end a relationship, so don't blame yourself or demonize your partner. Work out each of your issues and have compassion for both. Apologies for weaknesses. Ask: "What have I learnt? What would I do differently?"


Appreciate

Just because it's over is no need to diminish what you had. Prevent depression by gaining a healthy perspective. Don't romanticize the past, but do value the good stuff. What did you appreciate in your partner? What did you contribute? What can you both be proud of? Tell them. Tell yourself.


Don't just end a relationship, complete it

Have the necessary conversations so you can be at peace with your decision. You can have a ritual to end things, perhaps a last meal. To end with dignity, say something like: "I now go my way and let you go yours. I wish you well for the future."


Allow a transition time

Don't rush to fill the gap. Allow the discomfort and time for new things to arise - it can be a fertile time if you let it. But do make boundaries. Don't draw out the pain by constant sleepovers or unnecessary contact. Return their belongings and collect yours. You need time to grieve.


Develop wisdom

An ending doesn't mean failing. They can be painful, but they are also a catalyst for growth. If you leant on someone before you are now forced to become whole. It is the chance to develop independence and emotional strength. As you face your fears you become stronger and enriched

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Relationship Advice, Relationship Problems, Relationship Tips

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author avatar sanjay chauhan
my name is sanjay.
I grew up in Gujarat (India) in small town in poor family, I was decided to earn money help family ,I join my dream job in hindalco (India).
after I came Dubai got great job.

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author avatar ajit12
11th Oct 2014 (#)

Nice to read your article about Ending a relationship..wonderful post..thanks.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
3rd Nov 2014 (#)

Well written with valid points. One should not feel bitter or vindictive - siva

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