Don't hurt your loved ones

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The closer one is, the easier it is to hurt or be hurt. One should always avoid harming another but with closer relationships caution should be far greater

The closer you are the easier it is to hurt

The ease with which a person can harm another is inversely proportional to the distance between them both physically and emotionally. People who you don't know can shout abuse at you in the street and you probably won't take it to heart. To make you feel hurt they would have to probably strike you physically or throw something at you. Your friends calling you derogatory names, on the other hand could well hurt your feelings. Family don't even need to stoop to name calling in order to inflict pain and from a spouse or parent, even a misplaced frown can create a bad feeling.

Don't hurt yours

A guiding truism for life is try your utmost to avoid harming others. For physicians, that's part of the Hippocratic Oath: Primum Non Nocere - first do no harm. For physicians, this means avoid treating a condition where your treatment or intervention may cause more harm than good. For friends and family, this directive means be super cautious with your criticism, smile at people and weigh your every word.

Intimate expressions

Sometimes people feel that they want to express or share their feelings. When these are good feelings; a loving hug, smile or kiss, is an intimacy that is only available for sharing with those closest to us. A sadly common mistake is to, by extrapolation, assume that our expressions of dissatisfaction can also be expressed intimately without borders. This is of course not true. Loved ones are glad to provide support, care and understanding - that is precisely what friends are for but they can only accept such support when our feeling are expressed as feelings of sharing and not direct expression. Direct expression is often viewed as lashing out and merely serves to make other people feel as bad as us - that is not a friendly way of sharing and reflects a very egocentric view.

Unknown quote

You know what hurts so much?

It's when someone made you feel special yesterday,

but makes you feel like you're a nobody today.

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Abuse, Honesty, Honor, Hurt, Love, Name Calling, Relationship, Respect, Talking

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I am a practicing physician. I have spent 5 years in Yeshiva studying religion. I published a card game on wikinut and I am in a process of getting divorced

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

You know, there is sense in what you say. Hence I walked out from all and live alone and no one knows where I stay. Its a lot more peaceful without them too....

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

I am happy that my child is safe and far away from his father too.

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author avatar Legend
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

That is so sad,
is that why you comment but dont publish?

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author avatar tafmona
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

a very nice post

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

Good take and useful to keep in mind. A change in the way close people behave puts us off especially if the reasons are unclear; the closer they are the more sensitive our feelings are - siva

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author avatar Retired
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

nice post...unfortunately it's the one we love who we hurt the most...sad...

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
23rd Dec 2014 (#)

Nicely said!

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author avatar Natraj
9th Jan 2015 (#)

Hurting is no way good. If happened feel sorry and apologizing is welcome.

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author avatar Retired
25th Mar 2015 (#)

Thought provoking article. Thank you.

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author avatar Papa KyKy
13th Apr 2015 (#)

Well said. A kind word can mean so much.

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author avatar Erly
19th Apr 2015 (#)

Nice article. It will be bad to hurt our loves for we can never repair the damage.It takes months and even years to reconcile what had been done.

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author avatar Erly
19th Apr 2015 (#)

Nice article. It will be bad to hurt our loves for we can never repair the damage.It takes months and even years to reconcile what had been done.

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11th Jun 2015 (#)

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