Don't give up!

Vartika By Vartika, 14th Oct 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2z0us5lz/
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Suicide, an escape for those who commit it, but pain for those left behind. Is life really so cruel or are we missing the right perspective. Lets not give it up so cheap.

Varsha Bhosle ends life

Varsha Bhosle commits suicide. The news flashed on my screen and then kept flashing in my mind. To the extent, that it disturbed my work routine and hampered my concentration. I had to write this page to get the demons out of my mind.

I have known people who have considered suicide an option when things did not seem to work for them, when they did not have the courage to face the world or to put forward their point of view. They did not understand the power of communication.

If you have read any of Varsha’s articles (she was a journalist), you would agree she was anything but timid. She always had a razor sharp view of things and was someone who never knew a middle path. I have known her through her writings and always thought of her as a strong-willed lady. Maybe it was her strong-willed nature that that took away her life. In more than one article on her mother, the celebrated singer Asha Bhosle, she describes her mother’s Zidd (though there cannot be an apt translation of this Hindi word, but loosely means strong-willed, obstinate, stubborn). If Asha Bhosle is stubborn, Varsha proves to be more. She attempted suicide three times and finally managed to get her way with life, and out of it too.

Not a bed of roses

Do children of famous personalities pay a price of being born to celebrity parents? We commoners often dream of being rich and famous but it often news like this that gives us a peek into the less than perfect lives of celebrities. I have huge respect for Asha Bhosle, as an artist and as a person. She has led a difficult life but that has only made her stronger and more lovable. She is so full of life that life itself could take lessons in zest from her. Varsha was full of only praise for her mother and her “zidd”. Why then, Varsha, why did you not learn that from your mother.

Make real friends

Why are we willing to give up a life nurtured with so much love and affection? The reasons could be many but isolation is a major culprit. In the name of independence, we are increasingly leading isolated lives in nuclear families and alien environments. We travel places across the globe to find work and distance ourselves from our near and dear ones. We do not have a shoulder to cry on when we need one. Can our hundreds of friends on social networking sites give us the comfort of a real person, a real friend?

It is time to stop and reflect…to count the friends that we can call up at any hour of the day and not the “likes” that our online status generated, ….to make that one friend who will understand our silences and not just those that don’t like our silences.

We need love to sustain ourselves in difficult times. Let’s not disconnect ourselves and let’s not be shy to ask for help. Life is too precious to give away, just like that.

Fight stress

Stress is a modern day disease which kills us without giving us an opportunity to wake up and do anything about it. When stress builds up, drinking green tea will not help. What will help is a discussion (or even silence) over a cup of tea with your friend.

Try doing new things. .Go for a vacation, learn a new skill, try out a new recipe, learn a new dance form, do whatever you fancy, even if others find it silly. Any kind of change does wonders.

It’s after all LIFE. Your life, and it is not yours alone. Think about those who love you and care for you. Count your blessings and write them down...everyday. You will find that you have more to thank for than to complain for. It will give you a new perspective of life. And a new reason to live.

Tributes to Varsha Bhosle

Tribute by Rajeev Srinivasan:
Tribute by Dilp D'Souza:

Some of Varsha's writings

Varsha on her mother, Asha Bhosle:
Another one on her mother:

Varsha on Atal Bihari Vajpayee:

My country, period:
Stories they don't want told:
Shock to the system:

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Asha Bhonsle, Asha Bhosle, Celebrities, Difficult Times, Suicide, Suicide And The People Left Behnd, Varsha Bhonsle, Varsha Bhosle

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A self-employed professional...I enjoy studying and analyzing human behavior.
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author avatar neeta desai
15th Oct 2012 (#)

true.. our life is intertwined with
so many people that we should not.. can not.. give up life like that..

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author avatar Vartika
16th Oct 2012 (#)

true..

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
15th Oct 2012 (#)

Well written, Vartika. The emptiness of modern lifestyles haunt us often. Some lead busy lives but have no friends. I find it moreso for men. When life takes a different turn, they are left high and dry. And when they lose their life partner, they are totally lost - I know few.

Though successful in her own way, Varsha did not have it easy (like most others). She lost a close friend recently and her dreams might have been shattered. But suicidal thoughts haunt most when life leads us nowhere and the future looks ominous! But let us value life; even those who know only heaven awaits them are not in a hurry to leave, and they should not till nature takes its own course! Suicide makes no meaning but then again, we should make life meaningful - siva

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author avatar Vartika
16th Oct 2012 (#)

Thank you Mr. Siva, for your insight into the subject.

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author avatar vpaulose
16th Oct 2012 (#)

A sad story. Thank you Vartika.

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author avatar Vartika
16th Oct 2012 (#)

Thank you Mr. Paulose for visiting the page.

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author avatar DuitByJames
17th Oct 2012 (#)

I have known many BULL HEADED ( charge head long into with 100% on the line ) people .
It is very hard when someone you admire and care for takes such drastic action. I agree with you that communication

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author avatar DuitByJames
17th Oct 2012 (#)

and affirmative action is the way to stem this. Very good article, Thank You Vartika.
Sorry my laptop mouse pad is too sensative.

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author avatar Vartika
17th Oct 2012 (#)

Thank you James, for the appreciation.
As for your mouse, I have no problem. I got two messages instead of one, and that makes me happy :)

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author avatar Tanushree S
20th Oct 2012 (#)

Very True!

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author avatar Vartika
22nd Oct 2012 (#)

Thanks for visiting Tanushree..

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author avatar vpaulose
2nd Nov 2012 (#)

Interesting. Thank you dear Vartika.

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
5th Nov 2012 (#)

I love your insights in this piece Vartika...thank you so much...

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author avatar LOVERME
7th Nov 2012 (#)

good one
either one will win!

Obama fields the day
what has now
ASTROLOGY TO SAY ??

My predictions are all scientific
by the way ,
Next one will be
Hillary
may!

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
21st Nov 2012 (#)

choosing suicide is the way back to doing it all again...

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author avatar Vartika
14th Feb 2013 (#)

So true

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author avatar vpaulose
29th Dec 2012 (#)

I just came back to wish you and thank you dear Vartika. I miss you long. Wishes for a happy new tear.

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author avatar Vartika
14th Feb 2013 (#)

Thank you Mr. Paulose. Wishing you and your family a wonderful 2013! I'll be back soon.

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author avatar Kingwell
13th Feb 2013 (#)

An excellent read, thank you for sharing. We are always shocked when someone we know commits suicide. We must always be a friend.

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author avatar Vartika
14th Feb 2013 (#)

Thanks for reading and the encouraging comment, Mr. Kingwell.

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
11th Apr 2013 (#)

Nicely written article,, good to read you too...

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author avatar cnwriter..carolina
30th May 2013 (#)

am commenting again as I do not see any new pieces again and want to tell you how valuable you are here on wikinut..god bless you...and much loving too

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
14th Jul 2015 (#)

Long time no see Vartika! I am sure you will be back with a bang! siva

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author avatar Vartika
14th Jul 2015 (#)

Thank you so much for remembering me Mr. Siva. I am truly touched. I came to the website time and again but just could not bring myself to write anything. You are right. I will be back soon. Bang or no bang...but I do feel the need to express. A heartfelt "Thank you" once again.

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