Domestic Violence, An Epidemic

Jerry WalchStarred Page By Jerry Walch, 9th Dec 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/12_dsq0u/
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Twenty-five percent of all women in the United States will be a victim of domestic violence during her lifetime.

Why it matters

Domestic violence is the willful intimidation, physical assault, sexual assault, amd/or other abusive behaviors perpetrated by an intimate partner against partner. Domestic violence has reached epidemic proportions in the United States. Domestic violence is an epidemic that crosses all known boundaries in the United States—educational, economic, racial, ethnic, racial and nationality. The consequences crosses generational boundaries and lasts a lifetime.
According to a 2003 survey conducted by Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), National Center For Injury Prevention and Control (CIPC) in Atlanta, Georgia, roughly 1.3 million women are assaulted by an intimate partner every year.
I will admit that I have a personal, emotional investment in this issue. My wife was one of those innocent victims. She finally left her abusive first husband after he kicked her in the groin with steel-toed work boots.

Domestic violence and sexual assaults

According to the same 2003 CDC survey, roughly 7.8 million women have been raped by an intimate partner during their lives. Sexual assaults or forced sex (rape) happens in 40-45 percent of all battering relationships. According to the 2003 U.S. Department of Justice Statistics, “Crime Victimization”, domestic violence is one of the most chronically under reported crimes. Only twenty-five percent of all physical assaults and twenty percent of all rapes by an intimate partner are ever reported to the police.
What can a woman do to protect herself?

Orders of Protection do not work

Only 1.5 million, 20 percent, of the 7.8 million women who experience domestic violence every year ever get a Civil Protection Order. Fifty percent of all restraining orders obtained against an intimate partner for physical assaults were violated. Sixty-six percent of restraining orders obtained against intimate partners for rape or forced sex were violated.

What can a woman do to protect herself?

Arrests, prosecutions and covictions

Of the 40 percent intimate rapes reported to the police, there is only a 50.8 percent chance of an arrest being made.
If there is an arrest made, there is an 80 percent chance that the case will be prosecuted.
If the case is prosecuted, there is a 58 percent chance of a conviction.

If there is a felony conviction, there is a 69 percent chance that the convicted felon will serve jail time.
What this all comes down to is that of the 39-40 percent of the rapes reported to the police, there is only a 16.3 percent chance that the rapist will see the insides of a prison cell. If you take into consideration all the unreported cases, only about 6 percent of the rapist ever does so much as one day in jail. In simple language, 15 out of every 16 rapist walk free.

What can a woman do to protect herself in a country where the criminal has more rights under the law than she does?

My solution to the problem

Since I live in a state where it is almost impossible to get a concealed carry permit or to even own a handgun, every girl from her tween years on should be taught the martial arts. I have enrolled my two oldest grand daughters in a martial arts program to learn it as a sport and I am teaching them the things that their Sensi will not teach them, how to inflict serious, even fatal, bodily harm upon their attacker in the shortest period of time. My girls are never going to be a defenseless victim.

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Assault, Domestic, Domestic Abuse, Domestic Violence, Family, Family Safety, Girls, Martial Art, Martial Arts, Rape, Rape Victim, Rape Victims, Self-Defense, Victim, Women, Womens Issues

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Jerry Walch is a 71 year old freelance writer for hire living in Colorado Springs, Colorado. He has been writing since the late 1970s, and writes for both the print and online media. He specializes in

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author avatar Denise O
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Jerry, I know this was a very difficult article for you to write and research. I applaud you!
I am so glad your wife has found you. It just makes my blood boil that some one hurt her.
Violence against a women, let it be rape or domestic violence, take so much from us.
Some of us get past it, I did because of a great husband but, not all are as lucky as I and your wife are.
I remember back in the 60's and 70's, the mentality of most had was, what ever happens behind closed doors, stays just that...closed.
Sadly, people still have that same mindset.
At my mama's wake in 2009, I actually had people come up to me and say
"Your mom was the best, it was so sad she had to deal with your dad". Huh?!?!
They lived by her, they knew and yet they said nothing!
I never stopped begging my mama to leave him. I have never condoned his actions, to this day.
Yet these people, my mama's neighbors and friends, hugged me and said that to me.
It was a long day, I tell ya!
Jerry great peice of work!
Up on my facebook for all to see and just maybe, they will open there eyes.
Oh and I also love the fact you added, ways of not only teaching our girls how to protect themselves but also, in doing so.
You will also have a confident young woman when she grows up.
One that might do as your wife did and leave.
Thank you my friend for a well written article.:)

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author avatar Denise O
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Oops Jerry, I didn't mean to take up so much space.:)

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author avatar Barbara10Broek
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Great work Jerry

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author avatar Jerry Walch
9th Dec 2010 (#)

@ Denise You are always welcome in my space.

@Barbara Thank you. To give credit where credit is due, it was Denise personal story that prompted me to write it.

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author avatar D in The Darling
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Nice article Jerry,
Congratulations for that star!
One way to stop this is in the long run is a proper upbringing of our children! Let's teach our boys how to appreciate a woman's opinion and accept it when wrong! We ought to lead by example!

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author avatar maree
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Thankyou, I use to think rape was a form of taboo, not to be mentioned, you have given me inspiration. I have gone and pulled out my writings from over 20 years ago, As I was a victim one new years eve.
I have started to read them, which brings tears to my eyes, but I am off to write them all down, the draft might take a while tho.

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author avatar James R. Coffey
9th Dec 2010 (#)

Glad to see you're on top of this, old buddy. Nicely done!

I sent my daughter to study martial arts when she was ten. She's now one belt from black. Let some idiot try to take advantage of her in any way!

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
10th Dec 2010 (#)

Jerry thanks for writing this - a very meaningful article. And thank you so much for linking to Denise's page so people can see a real life account of what happens when nobody looks.

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author avatar hosariwi
10th Dec 2010 (#)

EXCELLENT! Here in Nairobi, Kenya, i have a daughter who is now 10. I must follow your example and get her to learn martial arts.

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author avatar Infonymph
10th Dec 2010 (#)

Jerry, this is a wonderful article. You and Denise have done a great thing here by distilling your passion into words on paper. Some people are truly so squeamish that they feel victimized if they're only made to listen to something like this or Denise's experiences and it's always made me angry. Bravo, and I heartily agree. If your granddaughters walk and talk like confident women, they're less likely to be targeted in the first place.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
10th Dec 2010 (#)

Thank you one and all. I'm not done yet. More articles to come on this subject.

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author avatar SiddiQ
10th Dec 2010 (#)

Excellent awareness article!

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author avatar Humza
15th Dec 2010 (#)

brilliant idea of teaching girls martial arts
start 007 'female' series especially for ladies

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author avatar Maria Papadopoulou
15th Dec 2010 (#)

Kudos for writing about such a sensitive subject. Well done Jerry!

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author avatar Jerry Walch
15th Dec 2010 (#)

Thank you Humza, SiddQ and Maria.

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author avatar Retired
5th Jan 2011 (#)

Thanks for this great share

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author avatar Greenfaol
21st Jan 2011 (#)

You guys are doing a wonderful job by bringing this issue and these facts to light. As you say, laws protect the criminals, not the victims/potential victims. It is a disgrace. And, alas, not limited to the US. it is a big issue over here.
Personal safety alarms are a good idea as well, if you are not able to take self defense lessons. They emit an extremely loud noise which should stun the attacker enough for you to get away, or for help to come.
Very, very well done x

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author avatar Jonathan
12th Apr 2011 (#)

Important issue. The other comments have said it all. Thank you for bringing issues like this to light. Great share.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
12th Apr 2011 (#)

Thank you Jonathan.

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author avatar Tranquilpen
24th Apr 2011 (#)

Thank you Jerry, This situation is rife in our country, South Africa, Since among all black tribes, ownership of all women, forms the basis of the black tribal culture. I will briefly touch on this and will elaborate via a future article.
In rural areas, 12 to 15 year old girls are kidnapped by marauding, middle-aged suitors, who "capture" rape and "own" them. Strangely though it may seem, female elders fiercely condone this practice and frown on any attempt to bring about change. The good news is that there is a growing awareness taking place among so called "Coconuts" (westernized black people) as their traditionalist peers call them.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
24th Apr 2011 (#)

I am looking forward to reading the article Tranquilpen.

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
6th May 2011 (#)

Jerry, you havde done a great service by writing this article. Thank you very, very much.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
6th May 2011 (#)

You're welcome Steve. Thanks for the read and the comment.

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