Do people really change?

Valerie M. By Valerie M., 18th Aug 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Recently, I've thought to myself "Can people really change?.....Is it possible?"

Is it possible?

When I say "Do people change?" I'm talking as in changing for the good of a relationship. They say you can't teach old dog new tricks and the old habits died hard but, is it really that impossible? Can people really change? I've done some thinking and asking around lately and what I've found is very interesting.

Apparently, people can change but if and only they want it. It can't be one person wanting them to change or even multiple people encouraging them to change. It doesn't work that way. The person who needs change has to want it. They need to want themselves to change. So it isn't impossible but it's still very unlikely that it will happen and I'll tell you why.

People will most often embrace change but, more than likely, when it involves them they're skeptical and usually won't. Change is hard. It's similar to a hard habit to kick like smoking for example. By the time anyone has been asked to change it’s become somewhat engrained in them. It's part of who they are whether it's right or wrong, good or bad.

So why is it so hard to change if it’s possible? Well, think of it this way. Thousands upon thousands people make new years resolutions. They want change, perhaps not exactly for the good of a relationship, but 92% of those people will stick to their resolution. It's hard to change old habits especially if your heart isn't completely into it. Those 8% who did keep their resolution, they had a support system, they did things to encourage them to succeed, and they had more determination.

For those who are reading this, I imagine you ran across this article and decided to read it because A.) You're the one who wants someone to change for the good of a relationship or B.) You were curious. Either way I'll take it. But if you are letter A. then here are some words of advice. You shouldn't give up on something or someone that you believe. As I said before the 8% that succeeded had a support system. Be the support system.

So to answer the question, "Can People Really Change?", yes, but with low success and higher success with a little encouragement.

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Dating, Dating Advice, Lying, Relationship Help, Relationship Issues, Relationship Problems, Relationships

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author avatar Valerie M.
I've been diagnosed with an over-active imagination.. I have a wonderful and extremely active little girl. I plan to write about my personal everyday adventures, topics of interest and help.

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author avatar Retired
30th Aug 2011 (#)

Changes in people are always in nature of evolution..slow and unnoticed...physically you grey,wrinkle and shrivel over your life span and then scurry for mirrors and vitamin E;mentally your preset ideas alter only after convictions of the contrary-which often takes lifetime.nice pondering here.

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author avatar Buzz
30th Aug 2011 (#)

Times change and we change with them. :)

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author avatar Retired
6th Sep 2011 (#)

I decided to read this because I was curious as to what you would write! I believe people can change if they themselves decide that changing is going to give more pleasure than pain! In other words, when we have enough pain involved with our current situation and there is something offered that will give pleasure not pain, then and only then will we change!

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