Death is so Final, but Memories last forever

Carol By Carol, 5th Jan 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2coyyqe5/
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It's 15 years since I lost you, but the memories remain in my heart for ever.

Death is so Final, but Memories last forever.

When you were born, some 3 weeks early, the snow was on the ground. The ambulance rushed me to hospital, I had complications I was told, but I didn’t know what they were. Then it took 3 days for you to be born, but when you did, it was magic, you were strong and healthy, my own beautiful little girl.

You were always a bright and enquiring little girl, into everything, a chatterbox, so affectionate, and full of fun. You could always see the funny side of everything, and we shared many laughs together. When you became a teenager you developed a very single minded attitude. You were good at Sport, and you wanted to win, and like all focused athletes, you put that above everything:

Oh the Teenage years!

This was a time that we weren’t so close, you were growing up and developing a very strong character, we argued, and you rebelled, and then you went off to Summer camp in America. I missed you so much, and although it was only meant to be a holiday, you met Tom, and this changed your life for ever.

You brought him home to meet us, you were such a happy couple, it was no surprise to us that you wanted to get married. Tom wanted to take you to live in America, and you wanted it too, so I swallowed my pain, and hid it from you, never mind my feelings, it was your life, and I wanted you to be happy.

You made a good life out there.

You made a great life for yourselves in America, had 3 beautiful daughters, feisty and lively like yourself. Although we could only meet up once a year, we chatted very regularly on the telephone, and our relationship became even closer. Being a grand mother was wonderful, and I always marvelled at the patience you showed your children, and wished I could have been more like you.

Fate cruelly snatched you from this world at the age of 29, mother of three, dedicated athlete, studying for a degree, loving wife and friend to many. You were nearly seven months pregnant, and that little life was snuffed out with yours , in an instant. It was my second parting from you, but this time for ever in this world.

15 years have passed

This was 15 years ago, you would be 44 years old now on 8th January, but it wasn’t meant to be. I still hold the memory of you in my heart, 29 years old and full of life, you didn’t waste a minute of it, throwing yourself wholeheartedly into living each day.


You were such a wonderful wife and mother, and it is heartbreaking that you never lived long enough to see your three beautiful daughters grow up. They are lovely young ladies now, a credit to you and Tom, and you would have been so proud

.I will never understand why someone who was beautiful inside and out, who cared about others, and had so much to live for was taken so young. But no-one can take away my memories, they remain in my heart for ever.

R.I.P. my beautiful Anita. xxxxxxxxxx

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15 Years Ago, Beautiful Inside And Out, Children, Daughter, Died, Grieves, Heart, Husband, Memories, Mother

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I am a proud mother and grandmother, and an author. I have had 7 books published. My hobbies are walking, swimming, and playing badminton. I try to raise more awareness of autism with my writing.

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author avatar Delicia Powers
5th Jan 2012 (#)

Carol beautiful as a mothers love...sending a hug- thank you for this page and sharing your memories...

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author avatar Jules Castillo
5th Jan 2012 (#)

memories....if only we could turn back time......

this is touching.....

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author avatar Write on
6th Jan 2012 (#)

Very touching. Thank you for sharing.

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author avatar Buzz
6th Jan 2012 (#)

Tender love and fond memories. I'd like to think, and I'm sure of it, that Anita is happy now, Carol. Thank you for sharing.

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author avatar Denise O
6th Jan 2012 (#)

Carol, I know this day never gets any easier coming around. I am so sorry hon and I wish I could just give you a big hug and make things all better. My thoughts and prayers are with you.:)

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
6th Jan 2012 (#)

Carol, I just stopped at various stages of reading this heartbreaking piece. What a glorious life so cruelly snatched away when so young, with so much to live for! These always reinforce my belief that our stay here is a temporary sojourn in an endless journey. We act different roles as parents, children, and then we rejoin those who left us earlier. But we may take different avatars (forms) and may not recognise each other from our previous lives. However, our feelings towards each other would bond us as we continue our endless journey. May you find solace that your dear daughter is well aware how much you love her and memories are forever! siva

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author avatar Sheila Newton
6th Jan 2012 (#)

The images you use to bring your piece to life are sensational. Death should never be thought of as the end. Never, Carol.

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author avatar Carol
6th Jan 2012 (#)

Thanks my lovely friends for your support. Writing eases the pain a little as life has to go on. God bless you all xxxxx

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author avatar Sam Bralley
10th Jan 2012 (#)

Such a beautiful tribute to your daughter that I know was a loving, caring and beautiful person, just like her mom...

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author avatar Carol
10th Jan 2012 (#)

Ah sam you are a lovely man too! x

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author avatar Shaunak
14th Jan 2012 (#)

Very touching. thanks for sharing, it reminded me of my aunt who left for heavens last winters.

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author avatar Carol
17th Jan 2012 (#)

Thank you Shaunak

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