Dating as a Single Parent

Laurie Childree By Laurie Childree, 27th Oct 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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I am once again a divorced mother. I have recently begun dating a man seriously. I am fearful of my daughter's reaction as our dynamic is different with a handicapped child.

Accidentally Meeting a Man Online

I was online one night using a website chat feature to talk to a friend. A strange man popped up in my inbox. I was afraid he'd be just another jerk that was going to hit on me and make inappropriate comments.

Relief and a Surprise
I was relieved and surprised when he turned out to be rather sweet. I found myself enjoying our brief chats. After a few months, I discovered that I found myself more than a little interested in this man and he was interested in me as well.

Being divorced I was wary of getting involved. Eventually, we talked more and decided to get together, that was July. It took a few tries but he finally made it to see me, and I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.

Ready Made Family

He is nine years younger than I am; he has never been married. I have been married three times, each ended in divorce. I have two children, the youngest is handicapped.

He is sure that he can handle me, and all of the baggage . I am willing to give him the chance to do so. My biggest fear is that my little girl will be hurt by this relationship.

We are not at the point of marriage talks, or even moving in together.

Daydreams
While I can daydream about the day the three of us (only one of my children lives with me) become a family unit legally right now that is all that it is.

Communication

My boyfriend and I have open communication. We are clear that my child comes before he does, he accepts and expects this. My communication with my little girl about us, it involves the two of us sitting down with her to discuss what is going on.

Including Children on Dates
I am not accustomed to leaving my child with a babysitter. My boyfriend works weekends on third shift. This means that if we are to have time alone it is during the day during the week.

Road Blocks
There is an hour drive between us, and I do not own a car. I don't have the ability to drive the distance because of my nerves even if I had a car. Our current financial situations are similar making financing the trip difficult for both of us. At the moment, we are happy with regular texting and phone calls.

Conclusion

Dating is difficult at any age. When you have children it is something that presents unique obstacles. Distance and children mean that you have to work harder at the relationship.

We are working hard on our relationship to make it work. It is what we both want.

Tags

Children, Discipline, Divorce, Divorce And Kids, Parenting, Relationships

Meet the author

author avatar Laurie Childree
I'm the single mother of an autistic child a published author. I have a wide range of topics that interest me including personal finance, writing, self employment and creative writing.

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author avatar Fern Mc Costigan
28th Oct 2015 (#)

Awesome post!

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