Concise reasoning about men and women

Ella By Ella, 9th Sep 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Any relationship is about giving and receiving. One gives, the other receives. They take turns or, if they’re lucky, they do it at the same time.

Concise reasoning about men and women

I’m a giver. I give. Whether it’s time, attention, a shoulder to cry on, support, or connections... I like to help people and it pleases me to see that I’ve managed to bring a smile or relief to someone. They can be friends or mere acquaintances or absolute strangers. To me, giving is receiving.

I’m a woman. When I have a problem, I do my part of pondering, but I also look for someone to talk to. You know, help put things in perspective. This has proved helpful so many times, although, in the end, it’s my instincts I trust when I make a decision.

I’m in a relationship. Relationships are beautiful, but sometimes hard. That’s because men and women are so different from each other (and that’s no news). Relationships help us discover who we are in relation to the other, but also make us lose ourselves a bit in the other.

Any relationship is about giving and receiving. One gives, the other receives. They take turns or, if they’re lucky, they do it at the same time.

Sometimes, people won’t receive. Usually, it’s the men that refuse help. They choose to struggle and keep it all inside instead of accepting the women’s support. Women don’t understand that and get upset.

Women talk in order to figure out what they think or feel before they come up with a solution. Men retreat to their cave and will only come out when they’ve found a solution. Most of the times, women don’t understand that and get upset.

When women have a problem, they want to talk about it, but men don’t listen because they’re not used to it. They don’t talk, so why should they listen? And women get upset.

When men have a problem, they want to be left alone to think about it and come back when they feel they’ve solved it. Women keep pestering them with questions and hurt looks and do more harm than good. But women don’t know that and they’re still upset.

Women get upset a lot. They shouldn’t, because men and women are different species and they react differently to life stimuli. In the end, everything will work out fine. But the road to this happy ending can be harder or easier, depending on the path they choose.

I’m a woman. He’s a man. We’re both givers. Yet, giving is not only about actively helping the other, but also about giving space when needed.

He’s a man. I’m a woman. We’re both receivers. Yet, receiving is not only about getting the expected reaction, at the expected time, but also about accepting the other’s help, even if not asked for.

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author avatar Songbird B
14th Oct 2011 (#)

Excellent article, and well reasoned out, Ella... Good advice included! Nice writing style too..

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author avatar Ella
14th Oct 2011 (#)

Thank you, Songbird B! :)

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author avatar Jonathan
30th Aug 2012 (#)

I love your advice, but its not that men like to retreat from conversation, but to retreat from a form of reasoning that we don't understand, since we are based on logic and struggle with our conection to our emotions, for which a man and woman are a perfect compliment to each other. We will talk with each other till the sun goes down, ask any men, especially if one puts the tail gate to a truck down and has a 12 pack off beer. Believe me, we love to socialize, but we also love woman, but in a different way a different spectrum, much stronger than our need to socialize with our fellow caveman, even though it is hard for us to express this into words... :)

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