Child Behaviour Won't Change Over Night

Lucas Uren By Lucas Uren, 17th Dec 2010 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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Kids will be kids and bad behavior will always be a part of childhood. It is when this bad behavior begins to become a problem that parents need to start thinking about how they are going to handle the misbehavior. You may choose to ignore it or you may choose to seek help. In my case, I chose the latter option.

Misbehavior In Children Is Normal

If there is any one thing that has never changed and never should change: Kids will be kids and part of being a kid is misbehaving.

Now, research shows that there are certain behaviour modification strategies that can increase the odds of you being able to manage changing child behaviour, but there are no overnight behavior cures or sure-fire ways to raise well-behaved balanced kids. It's a real matter of just doing the best that we can.

It is a well known fact that many parents don't get the desired behavior results they are hoping for because they haven't yet learned the basic psychological principles of which there are only a few. Desired behaviour can be acheived by making just a few small adjustments.

Keep reading to learn a few simple discipline solutions that if consistently used will help turn even the toughest kids into little angels.

But first, an important thing to know before you start is to only target one changing child behavior at a time.

Before being able to do this - You must identify any one specific behavior that is driving everyone crazy or has the potential to. It is likely that your child has more than one annoying behavior that requires attention, but you should zero in on only one, two at most. This way, you have a better chance of developing a behaviour specific plan, thus increasing your likelihood of success.

A few questions you may want to ask yourself are:
- Is there any one behavior that my child is exhibiting a lot, such as whining and / or crying?
- Is there any one behaviour that my child needs to display more, like saying please and thankyou and using other forms of polite speech?
- Does my child behave well when in the presence of others, like at a friends house or at school?

By asking yourself questions like the ones above and others, you will be able to identify child behaviours that may need changing.

Once a behaviour is identified, one that you think needs to change, there are a few simple steps that you can utilize to weed out bad behavior:

1. Be a role model for your child. Display behaviours that you want your child to copy. Behaviours are best learned by watching and if seen enough, they will soon be adopted.

Be aware that some behaviors that children often learn from their parents and other influential people include lying, aggression, shouting, hitting, and even gossiping.

2. Praise your child when they have behaved well, tell them when they have been kind and nice to others because praise is the fastest and simplest way to shape a childs behavior. It's free and most of all, kids thrive on it.

3. Don't ignore your kids when they need your attention, but utilize selective ignorance for things like annoying behaviours such as whining, pouting, sulking and tantrums. These behaviours are used for the purpose if getting your attention and if you give them your attention, they have won the situation over.

There are many things that we as parents can do to manage changing child behaviour. Behaviour doesn't usually change overnight, though and a behaviour that you think you have quashed may reappear in the future. Only thing is, it will be a little easier to change a second time round.

By the way, for more information on how to manage your children and their behavior, visit: Talking to toddlers

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author avatar Lucas Uren
I am an Australian living in Japan and I write about varying topics for various sites (some my own) on the internet.

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author avatar D in The Darling
18th Dec 2010 (#)

"Kids will always be kids," right. parents need to always reflect on their own past and see if there are any similarities in trend or trait manifestations then make their judgement. Letting the child know when a misbehavior surfaces is always the right thing to do. Thanks for sharing!

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