Charity does not always give positive results

vandana7 By vandana7, 22nd May 2015 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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I was reading this article about Mother Theresa, and it brought to surface many complex thoughts. Has anybody done any study about improvement in the way children treat parents before and after the lady?

I think charity needs to be well-thought out

The money we part with can go into many wrong activities. Even if it does not directly land into drug or human trafficking business or even terrorist activity, it can prompt laziness in others, which is bad enough.

Don't get me wrong, I do appreciate Mother Theresa and all the nuns with her

But what happens is, if there is a home or an institution, the son may feel there is somebody to take care of mother even if he does not. Therefore, his conscience is at ease. If charity prompts such complacence or indifference towards parents then it ceases to be charity. It is then detrimental to society. In India, looking after parents is part of culture. But more and more children are abandoning parents and elderly relatives on different pretexts be it monetary or generation gap issues. They are happy enough to use elderly to look after babies, and even do chores at home. But they would not want elderly to be taking any decisions or asking for more than is given, if at all.

What has charity got to do with it?

This change has come from materialistic attitudes rather than charity...I agree. But in Mother Theresa's shoes I would definitely have persuaded the government to pass laws such that a percent of an adult's income is deposited directly in an account in the name of parents so that the parents are always independent. That would be a more long term solution to the plight of elderly. It would also spare resources coming my way. So I could attend to the needs of really needy people such as those rendered homeless in earthquakes, hurricanes, typhoons, cyclones, etc.
Note that on one situation, we have some control, but on natural calamities - none so far.

Help should be finite

People get accustomed to taking help. Self-respect takes a back seat. Others follow examples of such people, and soon nobody is feeling ashamed to extend that hand, whether they need the monies or not. Help I noticed is also addictive. You help a person once, the next time the person will again return for more help from you. Therefore, help should only be for those who have absolutely no other way to survive, and can stand up on their own feet after a few months or years. Mother Theresa could have tried to make charitable institutions self sustaining institutions by putting a time frame for the help.


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author avatar snerfu
24th May 2015 (#)

charity begins at home, or so they say. We could practice charity in schools for children to begin. They would learn the meaning of sharing and caring.

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author avatar vandana7
24th May 2015 (#)

I think institutionalizing anything kind of shifts responsibilities. Take for example studies. When we send children to school, we think it is the responsibility of the school. In the same way, when we create a home for elderly people who are deserted by their family members, we unwittingly and unintentionally set a system in motion that it is not necessary for children to look after their parents since there are alternatives around. Charity should essentially for really helpless ones such as those who are hit by natural calamities. For rest, there should be social pressures and laws.

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