Are You a Certificate of Authenticity?

Lee HansenStarred Page By Lee Hansen, 11th Sep 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed
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All too often people try to be something they are not. It's best to just be yourself. You'll probably be much happier if you do.

You Are Unique

Sometimes when you buy something such as a collectible item, you might also get a certificate of authenticity included. It basically verifies that your product or purchase is one of a kind or unique in some kind of way.

I thought about how being authentic relates to people. We are all unique as individuals. That's how we were made. But do we embrace our uniqueness or try to be something we're not? Do we like who we are or are we busy trying to keep up with the crowd?

Just Be Yourself

Sadly we often pretend to be something we're not. We strive for the approval of others, thinking that we might be more accepted or liked. The problem with that is it can be a never-ending vicious circle. Inevitably not everyone is going to necessarily like you. It's better to just be yourself.

A First Date

I think back many years ago when I was dating a guy named Ken. For our first date, I invited him to a church outing with me. It was a dinner of some kind. For some reason, I felt the need to pretend that I wasn't hungry. I began picking over my food. Ken, on the other hand was eating like there was no tomorrow. I was being teased about my lack of appetite by those who knew my eating habits best.

Why did I feel the need to be something I was not, especially when my stomach was begging to be fed? I told myself that he wouldn't like me if he saw just how hearty my appetite could be. What a fake I was. I left hungry and disappointed with my behavior.

I learned from that youthful experience and vowed never to repeat it again.

Molding Process

How often do we let people mold us into what they want us to be? We feel obligated to succumb to peer pressure. There's really no satisfaction we gain because we feel miserable.

Why Are You Changing?

If people can't like and accept you for who you are then they are probably not someone that is needed in your life. Nothing is wrong with constructive criticism if there is something that needs to be addressed in a loving and caring manner.

But if you are changing to make someone accept you, let it go. And sometimes these pressures don't necessarily come from outside forces but from you.

You Are Special

Don't let others define who you are. You are a certificate of authenticity. And that makes you unique in your own special way.

Now here's to being you. No faking necessary.


Credit: Picture by Wikimedia Commons

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Being Authentic, Being Yourself, Certificate Of Authenticity, Chameleon, Molding, Molding Process, Relationships, You Are Special, You Are Unique

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author avatar Lee Hansen
As a breast cancer survivor I have learned to take time to smell the roses in life. I love sharing my passion of reading to children. My pages will be on various topics.

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author avatar Phyl Campbell
11th Sep 2014 (#)

I like this! Simple and straightforward with an important message. Thanks for sharing, and congrats on the star merit!

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author avatar Lee Hansen
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Thank you Phyl. I appreciate you input.

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author avatar Retired
11th Sep 2014 (#)

It's an interesting idea, but is it really possible to "be yourself"? First of all, you have to know what "yourself" means. Who are you, deep down? What is your true character?

Shakespeare's Jaques declared that "All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players". He then goes on to explain all the roles that one plays throughout life - are all of them are the "real you" or are none of them?

Jean-Paul Sartre said something similar when he pointed to the fact that every situation in which you are placed calls for a different persona to be adopted - you are not the same person talking to your children as you are when talking to your boss.

So can you be yourself when you are so many different selves, each of which is acting out a role? If you can strip away all the roles and determine the "real you", what is to be gained by presenting that character to the world? Maybe it is better to stick with the parts you play!

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author avatar Lee Hansen
11th Sep 2014 (#)

John your comment does make me pause. I believe wharever role you play it is all the components that make you uniquely you.

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author avatar Retired
11th Sep 2014 (#)

I suppose you can say that the important thing is not to assume a role that doesn't suit you - don't pretend to be what is wrong for you, given that there will be many roles that suit you perfectly.

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author avatar Delicia Powers
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Being ourselves with good intentions at heart- is always smart...;0)..great share Lee!

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author avatar Lee Hansen
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Thanks D. I agree.

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author avatar C.D. Moore
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Wonderfully said Lee!

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author avatar Lee Hansen
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Thanks C.D. I appreciate the support.

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author avatar Retired
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Some persons automatically come across as being their authentic selves. I can think of no finer example than you, Lee.

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author avatar Lee Hansen
11th Sep 2014 (#)

Thanks Susan. As the song says, "I've gotta be me".

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