An Unusual Tip for New Dads to Strengthen Bond with Their Baby

Tisoydog By Tisoydog, 4th Oct 2014 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL
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This simple and quite weird strategy may help fathers have new fathers connect with their bundle of joy.

It is a Silly No-Brainer

It has been 2 weeks since my firstborn baby girl was born, and becoming a father has been the greatest milestone I have achieved in life. All those months of anxiety and suspense, all those moments of panic every time my wife had episodes of vaginal spotting, have evaporated into distant memory.

Yet all the joy, the hysteria, the obsessive-conpulsiveness of being a parent are offset by the fact that my bundle of joy does not want me to carry her in my arms. Maybe I was holding her too tightly? Maybe I should elevate her head a little more perhaps? Nope. She is still crying. Then there was even a time when I tried a simple waltz dance to rock her to sleep, but even that did not help much. I used to hear frustrating stories from other parents about the recurring problems of colicky babies, but I was foolish enough to think that it is not really a big deal.

It was when my mother-in-law came to visit when she gave me a simple suggestion, "Hang your used, dry shirt in the side of her crib. She will get used to your smell eventually. She was used to the smell of her mother and the breastmilk scent that any other scent will confuse her. "

My mom-in-law is a kind lady, but still I am quite hesitant to follow her advice. Even in September in a tropical country, with the abrupt changes between sunny and rainy weather like a switch in the light bulb, it still often gets hot outside. So I am often sweating and my shirt would get soaked with it. How could I get my daughter to get used this kind of stench?

But I tried it nevertheless. The strategy, no matter how silly it may seem, is simple enough. So i tried it for a week. I would hang my shirt near her crib before I go to work. Even my wife taught it was weird, even if this tip came from her own mother.

Fast forward to several days later, my little girl is now more comfortable in my arms than before. Sure, it did not solve the problem of having to get up in the middle of the night just to feed her or change her diapers. But at least my wife, who still recovering from the C-section, can have longer rest periods while I take charge of our baby's basic necessities.

By the way... it's the shirt, not the underwear.


Colicky Baby, Fatherhood, Fussy, Newborn Babies, Scent

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
4th Oct 2014 (#)

I can relate to your ups and highs of parenthood with a bit of inconvenience too that pales in comparison to the spring in your steps! Enjoy the precious moments that are worth recalling all your life! siva

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