♪♫ Love Me, Love me, Love me ♪♫

darlin4071 By darlin4071, 18th Nov 2013 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/2t7turs2/
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We all want to be accepted and loved by others. Sometimes when we think that we are not acceptable or loved we try to change. Unfortunately those changes never last because it is not who we really are. To be true to ourselves is the most important thing that we can do in a relationship.

Who am I?

"I'm just a girl and I want you to love me and accept me just the way I am. I don't want you to love me because of what I can do for you. However, because I want to be acceptable and I want you to love me I will try to change for you."

How many of us have said these words, maybe not audibly, but in our mind ? I don't know about you but I definitely have and it was probably in my mind in every boy/girl relationship I was ever involved in.

I just can't help myself

I couldn't stop myself from my habit of trying to be what I thought he wanted me to be. He didn't even have to state what he desired; I tried to read his mind. Its just that I was so desperate for love that I was willing to sacrifice myself. I didn't know who I was anymore. I continued to try to be someone I wasn't from the time I was 18 till I was about 40 years old. Then I realized what I was doing. I wanted to stop! However, the habit was so ingrained into the fabric of my being that I needed someone or something to deliver me from it.

Sickness in me

I was so sick emotionally. I was depressed and I didn't want to do anything that I enjoyed doing before.I didn't want to go outside; I love nature.I didn't want to see anyone; I am a social butterfly. I just laid in the bed and slept or sit in the rocking chair and looked outside.The kids had grown up and left home and were living their own lives. I discovered my husband and I had nothing in common. Our relationship was hurting both of us; and I wasn't making things any better with my indecision. I ran away from home and I divorced my husband of 23 years. I was so sad even though I pretended not to be.

Just as I am

Healing was what I needed and I knew it. I had so much pain inside. So I focused on Bible reading and study. The more I studied the more I saw myself. I found out that I had unrealistic expectations of people in my life. I wasn't accepting and loving people as I had wanted to be accepted and loved. What a revelation. I prayed for The Lord to heal me and help me to overcome my habit of people pleasing in exchange for love. Each day I get a little better. He has given me everything I need to feel loved; secure,worthy and significant.I have to guard myself because the old habit of exchanging services for love is still in me. Each day is a new day with Jesus and our relationship has become the most important to me. He is helping me to overcome myself so that I can accept and love others like he accepts and loves me, just as I am.

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Divorce, Emotional Pain, People Pleasers, Relationship, Relationship Advice, Relationship Help, Relationship Issues, Relationship Problems, Relationship Tips, Relationship With God, Relationships, Relationships Love

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author avatar darlin4071
I love nature and my family, kids and grandkids. I believe that all relationships begin with Jesus and will end without him. Life is simply all about Jesus and Me and then Me and You.

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author avatar Brenda
21st Nov 2013 (#)

I love this lady she is a wonderful and inspiring Christian woman.she has surely showed her love for Jesus our savior.

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author avatar darlin4071
21st Nov 2013 (#)

Thank you Brenda I love you too.

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