Writer and Former Teen Mom is Engaged

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Colorado Springs, CO - Tanisha Tankersley writer and former teen mom announced earlier this week that she will wed long time boyfriend Matthew Porter in August of 2012.

Former Teen Mom Says That She Has Found Mr. Right

Her life has been an open book. Twenty two year old Tanisha Tankersley began her writing career in 2010. She wrote articles that were aimed towards teen moms, her goal was to inspire young moms to do right by their children.

Her articles offered advice on everything from handling stress to the dos and don'ts on dating.

She Never hid her Past

Although Tanisha doesn’t condone teen pregnancy, she says, “I’m speaking to girls who are already pregnant. My aim is to pass on helpful advice. These are girls who have or will be giving birth soon and I want to encourage them to take motherhood seriously, or to maybe even consider adoption."

In spite of whether we like the statistics or not, the fact remains, one-third of girls get pregnant before the age of 20. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens.

Tanisha says, “There is an audience of young mothers out there that I've been able to speak to. Who better to speak into their lives, than someone who has traveled down a similar path?"

When She Met Matthew, She Told Him She was Pregnant

Tanisha says she has been through this, she found out she was pregnant when she was only fifteen years old. She was scared out of her mind. "I couldn't have been as productive as a mother had I not had a strong support system in place around me." she says.

"My parents, of course were none to pleased when they found out that I was pregnant, but they have been there for me this entire time. But, it is important for teen mothers need to confide in their parents, if not their parents then their teachers, counselors or friend."

A teen mom needs caring individuals to guide her. Her health, the babies health and their future are at stake.

Her Children Have been Her Priority

Her message is simple and very matter of fact. If you are old enough to start having sex, beware there is a strong possibility that you can become pregnant.

Pregnancy needs to be taken seriously and motherhood is a privilege and should never be taken for granted. It is not easy to be a young mom, but it’s not any easier to be the child of a young mother, so why not rally together as teen moms and help out one another?

That is why Tanisha began writing in the first place. It was a way to reach the masses. "I wanted to encourage girls to take parenting seriously and to consider such things as adoption if necessary."

She Made it Her Job to Help Empower Other Teen Moms to Do the Same

Tanisha says she encourages teens to get involved in support groups, to take parenting classes and to join groups such as MOP (Mothers of Preschoolers). It is important that these young girls bounce ideas off one another. They need to talk about issues that are affecting them.

Tanisha says, "Teen moms struggle with issues such as finding a babysitter, planning their future, yet they don't always trust their concerns with their mothers, teachers or any adult for that matter because they fear that their concerns might be taken as a sign that they aren't a good parent."

You Know You've Found a Good Man When Even Your Children Love Him

Tanisha decided to take the concerns that she heard from her peers and to ask her pediatrician, youth group leader, parents what they thought and to share the answers on line. She spoke with her pediatrician, her parents and began reading articles on parenting.

In my columns, I write about my own experiences. I’m not here to judge but rather to share information and advice that I’ve learned along the way.”

Motherhood is a Privilege that Should Never Be Taken For Granted

Tanisha says that she feels strongly that if she can empower young girls with the confidence to share their questions and concerns, she believes these girls will make better mothers.

There are teen moms who keep their questions inside and don't ask for help. These are the girls that I fear might one day explode on their children.

Tanisha stresses to teen moms, “Do not ever allow another human being to harm your child and as for dating, it’s not cool to date someone just because you are lonely. Your home should be a haven for your child. If you suspect someone is not acting appropriate around your child, stand up and get the heck out of that relationship!”

Former Teen Mom says I'm Looking Forward to my Life as Wife and Mother

When Tanisha met Matthew she admits that she was probably harder on him than she’d been in most of her relationships, but she was practicing what she preached.

When she met Matthew she was up front about her pregnancy, yet he stayed with her even becoming her birthing coach. Tanisha continued to live at home with her parents as her and Matthew dated. She says, "Matthew is a wonderful guy and he is very appropriate with my daughters, I couldn’t ask for a better man."

Teen writer and mom says, motherhood is a wonderful experience and now I am looking forward to being a wife and mother.

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Teila Tankersley - freelance writer and author who highlights stories that are upbeat and sometimes even controversial. Her stories have the ability to inspire and to amuse. Check them out!

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author avatar Lady Aiyanna
25th Mar 2012 (#)

You can come out of the teen years but never come out of the incidents have have already happened. So the statement is not former teen mum as she is still a mother irrespective of future happenings. The correct version would be putting it to the past stating that she was a teen mother who used her experience to help others around.

Many girls at the age are gullible, but very few of them are taught to stay away from men until the time is right due to the contemporary modern culture which openly advocate having partners.
While she has chosen to move on, the best thing to do is to always check whether the man accepts the child that is not his as many of them don't and that is when the instances of child abuse increase because the man cannot accept the wife's daughter/son. Not from personal experiences but from the newspapers and television programmes I used to watch while stationed in Singapore and advice from psychologists out here to screen the male for child acceptance before getting into a relationship.

God bless her, lets hope she is happy in her new found life...
Her parents should have Counselled her about the birds and bees and its effects. Boils down to awareness of the past that she used to help people of the future that gave her a happy ending with an engagement and marriage.

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author avatar Tranquilpen
5th Apr 2012 (#)

I do believe, that you need a really long break.Aiyanna as in permanently

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author avatar LOVERME
29th Sep 2012 (#)

incorrigible
meditation and medication needed badly

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author avatar Buzz
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Wow! Teila and Tanisha are...one? Is that you, Teila? If so, I never had known till you wrote this! Thanks for sharing. And congratulations!

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author avatar Teila
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Hi Buzz, Tanisha is my daughter, she is our youngest and she too writes on occasion. Thanks for the comment.

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author avatar Buzz
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Oh, lovely mom and daughter! Thanks for sharing your work and hers to spread awareness on Teen mom!

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author avatar Tony Barnes
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Lady Aiyanna...you are so judgmental...first you criticize the way the article is written...then you make an assumption that the parents had never discussed 'the birds and the bees' with her...just because you know doesn't mean you avoid the situation.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
25th Mar 2012 (#)

We need to find ways to stabilise our lives after the hiccups and soon make them stronger. All children are entitiled to love and where else than at home with both parents. Wish Tanisha and children secure lives as a family as they start a new life with an understanding Matthew. Thanks for the share, Teila - siva

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author avatar Teila
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Siva you always have such wonderful comments.

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author avatar Han Van Meegerin
25th Mar 2012 (#)

What a truly inspiring story. I am pleased to learn about Tanisha and Matthew. I plan on reading her writing.

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author avatar Han Van Meegerin
25th Mar 2012 (#)

This page deserves a star. I'll share opinion with our two moderators.

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author avatar Teila
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Han Van Meegerin the encourager and mentor to fellow writers! I'll have to learn how to add a few more elements to my stories to earn a star. I love the challenge, but thanks Han Van for the encouragement!!

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author avatar Don Rothra
25th Mar 2012 (#)

Teila, I've been following you all this time and now, maybe I'll get to follow your daughter. I'll keep my eyes open for her.
This is a great atricle, especially for we writers who follow you as a member of our family.

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author avatar Mark Gordon Brown
26th Mar 2012 (#)

Teila - if you used italics on the parts that were quotes that might be enough to give it a Star. You have to edit.

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author avatar Teila
26th Mar 2012 (#)

I'm going to play with that idea, thanks for the tip!

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author avatar Delicia Powers
26th Mar 2012 (#)

Teila this touched my heart....looking forward to reading your daughters work also...

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author avatar Steve Kinsman
28th Mar 2012 (#)

Good for Tanisha for using her experience to help teens, and good for you for being the proud mother that you are.

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author avatar Han Van Meegerin
28th Mar 2012 (#)

I'm glad to see you have a star page!

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author avatar Jack Wellman
29th Mar 2012 (#)

What a happy ending and what beautiful girls....and I know beautiful girls full well, with my wife and the last in my nest, my princess. Kudos to you....a Star Page and well deserved! :-)

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author avatar Ms. Ann
31st Mar 2012 (#)

Teila,
What a compassionate and unselfish way to share by reminding us that we are all vulnerable. It is a sensitive piece that should touch everyone's heart. Thanks for sharing!

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author avatar Tranquilpen
5th Apr 2012 (#)

Sorry Teila about my comment above. First off God bless you and your very courageous little family. You and Mathew are going to make it just fine, and to highlight just one of the many positive things a young single parent can teach a child. is how to survive in a tough world and you are doing that amicably well my friend. Congratulations with the star, always heed Mark's advice and the stars will come shining through:-))

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author avatar Judy Ellen
10th Apr 2012 (#)

You should be so proud to have raised such a loving daughter like yourself!!! Congratulations on your daughter's engagement and your Star! She is so beautiful just like you! I wish I had the time to write. I have so many ideas but so little time! Thankyou so much for sharing!

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author avatar vpaulose
10th Apr 2012 (#)

Star shines. Thank you dear Teila. Please help and guide me to write more Christian.

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author avatar jennyreeve
16th Apr 2012 (#)

What a lovely article. A charming and inspirational story.

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author avatar Md Rezaul Karim
13th May 2012 (#)

Nice article, thanks for sharing.

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author avatar Benter Adede
15th Jun 2012 (#)

Wow! Now that's a real good role model!

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author avatar siddhinfo
16th Jul 2012 (#)

Very nicely written and let them have a Happy Married life.

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author avatar Souvik
20th Sep 2012 (#)

Excellent article.
Souvik Chatterji

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author avatar LOVERME
29th Sep 2012 (#)

you are already a star pager which I have been eying since a century
Glad you took the initiate to pass by my poetry...All my poems, at least many have been
TEEN CENTRIC
one published in USA
''' you just can't'''

your life speaks so distinctly how I wish the whole wide world read you only
congrats really

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author avatar LOVERME
3rd Oct 2012 (#)

i read this one before its lovely one for sure and hope twill be read by many more

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author avatar LOVERME
8th Oct 2012 (#)

some how i unknowingly I traverse this pathway
for a hat trick may be
i must say

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author avatar LOVERME
8th Aug 2013 (#)

once again i pass by

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