Writer and Former Teen Mom is Engaged
Colorado Springs, CO - Tanisha Tankersley writer and former teen mom announced earlier this week that she will wed long time boyfriend Matthew Porter in August of 2012.
- Former Teen Mom Says That She Has Found Mr. Right
- She Never hid her Past
- When She Met Matthew, She Told Him She was Pregnant
- Her Children Have been Her Priority
- She Made it Her Job to Help Empower Other Teen Moms to Do the Same
- You Know You've Found a Good Man When Even Your Children Love Him
- Motherhood is a Privilege that Should Never Be Taken For Granted
- Former Teen Mom says I'm Looking Forward to my Life as Wife and Mother
Former Teen Mom Says That She Has Found Mr. Right
Her life has been an open book. Twenty two year old Tanisha Tankersley began her writing career in 2010. She wrote articles that were aimed towards teen moms, her goal was to inspire young moms to do right by their children.
Her articles offered advice on everything from handling stress to the dos and don'ts on dating.
She Never hid her Past
Although Tanisha doesn’t condone teen pregnancy, she says, “I’m speaking to girls who are already pregnant. My aim is to pass on helpful advice. These are girls who have or will be giving birth soon and I want to encourage them to take motherhood seriously, or to maybe even consider adoption."
In spite of whether we like the statistics or not, the fact remains, one-third of girls get pregnant before the age of 20. Eight in ten of these pregnancies are unintended and 81 percent are to unmarried teens.
Tanisha says, “There is an audience of young mothers out there that I've been able to speak to. Who better to speak into their lives, than someone who has traveled down a similar path?"
When She Met Matthew, She Told Him She was Pregnant
Tanisha says she has been through this, she found out she was pregnant when she was only fifteen years old. She was scared out of her mind. "I couldn't have been as productive as a mother had I not had a strong support system in place around me." she says.
"My parents, of course were none to pleased when they found out that I was pregnant, but they have been there for me this entire time. But, it is important for teen mothers need to confide in their parents, if not their parents then their teachers, counselors or friend."
A teen mom needs caring individuals to guide her. Her health, the babies health and their future are at stake.
Her Children Have been Her Priority
Her message is simple and very matter of fact. If you are old enough to start having sex, beware there is a strong possibility that you can become pregnant.
Pregnancy needs to be taken seriously and motherhood is a privilege and should never be taken for granted. It is not easy to be a young mom, but it’s not any easier to be the child of a young mother, so why not rally together as teen moms and help out one another?
That is why Tanisha began writing in the first place. It was a way to reach the masses. "I wanted to encourage girls to take parenting seriously and to consider such things as adoption if necessary."
She Made it Her Job to Help Empower Other Teen Moms to Do the Same
Tanisha says she encourages teens to get involved in support groups, to take parenting classes and to join groups such as MOP (Mothers of Preschoolers). It is important that these young girls bounce ideas off one another. They need to talk about issues that are affecting them.
Tanisha says, "Teen moms struggle with issues such as finding a babysitter, planning their future, yet they don't always trust their concerns with their mothers, teachers or any adult for that matter because they fear that their concerns might be taken as a sign that they aren't a good parent."
You Know You've Found a Good Man When Even Your Children Love Him
Tanisha decided to take the concerns that she heard from her peers and to ask her pediatrician, youth group leader, parents what they thought and to share the answers on line. She spoke with her pediatrician, her parents and began reading articles on parenting.
“In my columns, I write about my own experiences. I’m not here to judge but rather to share information and advice that I’ve learned along the way.”
Motherhood is a Privilege that Should Never Be Taken For Granted
Tanisha says that she feels strongly that if she can empower young girls with the confidence to share their questions and concerns, she believes these girls will make better mothers.
There are teen moms who keep their questions inside and don't ask for help. These are the girls that I fear might one day explode on their children.
Tanisha stresses to teen moms, “Do not ever allow another human being to harm your child and as for dating, it’s not cool to date someone just because you are lonely. Your home should be a haven for your child. If you suspect someone is not acting appropriate around your child, stand up and get the heck out of that relationship!”
Former Teen Mom says I'm Looking Forward to my Life as Wife and Mother
When Tanisha met Matthew she admits that she was probably harder on him than she’d been in most of her relationships, but she was practicing what she preached.
When she met Matthew she was up front about her pregnancy, yet he stayed with her even becoming her birthing coach. Tanisha continued to live at home with her parents as her and Matthew dated. She says, "Matthew is a wonderful guy and he is very appropriate with my daughters, I couldn’t ask for a better man."
Tanisha and Matthew look forward to many years of wedded bliss.