Working On Your Marriage To Make Marriages Work

bronnamdi By bronnamdi, 26th Feb 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/_30zqhi6/
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I have often heard that marriages are not working out and divorce was thought and has actually been used by many to deal with it. Is this the right way to deal with marriage problems?

Getting Married

One of the sweetest things that can happen to a human being is getting married. What does getting married imply? That you are no longer available for yourself alone!

Getting married is joining yourself to another person of the opposite sex so two of you will live together as one.

Before you criticize me, I have taken a very narrow view about marriage and I have restricted myself to the Bible view of marriage.

The bible states in Genesis Chapter One from verse 26; "Then God said, “Let us make mankind in our image, in our likeness, so that they may rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky, over the livestock and all the wild animals, and over all the creatures that move along the ground.”

27 So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.

28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”


It follows that God created us male and female and charged us to be fruitful and increase and fill the earth.

However, God had plans for human beings. Therefore in Genesis Chapter 2, from verse 18, we read that; "The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

19 Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. 20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals.

But for Adam no suitable helper was found. 21 So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. 22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.


25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame."
I will write an article on being naked and not being ashamed soon.

Basically, we are getting married because of companionship which we get from being together.

Staying Married And Working On Your Marriage To Make Marriages Work

After we have got married, it is our duty to stay married. You have to make your marriage work whichever way we look at it. Adjustments are necessary between the two persons in marriage so they can accommodate their individual lifestyles and blend them together for harmonious existence.

I do not think that divorce is an option. while I will not argue with those that are contemplating divorce due to difficulties encountered in their marriages, I believe it is better to stay married than divorced.

However, staying married to the same spouse may be an issue which I leave for you to ponder on.

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I am an internet marketer who is online to make contacts, network with like minded fellows and make money on the internet using the easiest means available. I am a Chartered Accountant and married.

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author avatar Jerry Walch
1st Mar 2011 (#)

Getting married is the easy part, making the marriage work takes a lot of work.

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author avatar bronnamdi
1st Mar 2011 (#)

I agree Jerry. That's why we all need God's help to make our marriages work.

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author avatar muthusamy
1st Mar 2011 (#)

You have brought out the biblical view of marriage. It is not a narrow view. Every religion has their own encouragement and support for cause of longer married life. Thank you for the share

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author avatar bronnamdi
1st Mar 2011 (#)

Thanks muthusamy.

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author avatar Rathnashikamani
2nd Mar 2011 (#)

//This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man//

And they have united to be ONE again. That is the life's destiny in unison.

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author avatar bronnamdi
2nd Mar 2011 (#)

Very well said Rathnashikamani. Thanks.

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author avatar Denise O
3rd Mar 2011 (#)

I wish my first marriage had worked but, it didn't. We both have found new partners and have been with each of them for over 2 decades. I think we were just too young at the time. I also think that there are some marriages that no, you shouldn't do all you can to make it work. Like with abuse, why should a woman (or man) stay with someone that is absuing them. I honestly think God would have no problem with that spouse leaving and not amking a go with the devil. Just my take though.
Nice read.
Thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar bronnamdi
3rd Mar 2011 (#)

Thanks Denise, for your comment. We should all be mature enough to know when to draw a line and say NO.

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author avatar Dafeenah
5th Mar 2011 (#)

So true. The importance of marriage and its true meanings has been lost today.

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author avatar a29f
13th Mar 2011 (#)

Personally, the biblical view of marriage is the only view. When two leave father and mother to become one, convenience and indifference doesn't allow for splitting up/divorce. Today's "hollywood" mentality is appalling but is more the norm than the biblical view. This is sad and speaks volumes of where society is today.

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author avatar bronnamdi
13th Mar 2011 (#)

A lot of adults are falling in and out of love as if they are just changing their underwear. This has led to divorces. What I can infer from such marriages is that they were not meant to be married in the first place.

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