Wedding Ceremony in Javanese Style
Foreigners who will get marriage with Javanese girls probably will need this information to know better about how the ceremonial event of their wedding will be conducted.
Indonesia has variety Wedding Ceremony
Each regions of Indonesia has its own traditional wedding ceremony. The wedding ceremony, wedding dress and wedding accessories are very much different from one region to another. Each wedding ceremony is very much related to their own social norms and traditions. In wikinut, I would like to share a bit on the sacred wedding of Javanese Style.
Getting marriage in Javanese tradition is started from several sacred ceremonial days. At least, the wedding ceremonial is conducted in three separated events, those are applying day, angels night, and the wedding ceremonial day.
If you are a gentleman, you need to formally apply your girl first to her parents. In this case, your parents should visit your girlfriend's parents and asking for permission to marriage their son. The discussion will be continued days after when the permission is achieved. At those times, your parents will also arrange the date and a good day of your wedding day. Surely, your girl friend's parents will ask for some presents for their daughter from you. You may not meet your girlfriend for a week before the wedding day.
The second step is the big event of applying day. It is very sacred event and will be attended by your girl friend's relatives and your both friends. Usually, the couples should wear traditional and formal dress. Presents should be brought along and be given to your girl's parents as a proof of your love. Traditional music will be heard during the event. Hence, a Muhdin (a man who lead the prayer and guide the spell of promise) will direct you and your girlfriend toward the spell of promise and prayer.
You have to sign two books of official marriage, one for you and one for your couple. This event is finished after all of the attendance have meals together.
Night before the wedding ceremony is called "Angels Night". It is the night when angels come to your house. You and your couple will meet at the bride's house at that night to do another sacred ceremony of wedding.
At that night, both of you should clean your mind and body. To expressing it, each of you have to be showered by flowery water. Each of your parents will flush you and your bride alternately. When the shower ceremonial finished, you and your couple have to kneel in front of your parents and get their blessing. During the Angels Night, your relatives will prepare your bridal bed as beautiful as possible.
Angels Night expresses faithfulness of kids to their parents and always hope their parent's blessing for their future life.
Wedding Ceremonial Day
On the wedding day, several ceremonial events should be followed by you and your bride. These are:
(1). Washing groom's feet, as a symbol of a faithful wife
(2). The groom feed his bride, as a symbol of husband's responsibility in financial matters.
(3). Throw some flowers to audience, as a symbol of spreading goodness in their family life.