Trying to cope with Bereavement
Being bereaved is the worst thing ever, it's a time in your life you need all the love and support, and it's out there, if you care to find it.
- Trying to cope with Bereavement
- In the case of Sudden Death
- My Family helped
- HERE ARE SOME OF MY TIPS WHICH I HOPE WILL HELP
- 2. GET A HOBBY OR INTEREST
- 3. ACCEPT INVITATIONS FROM FRIENDS
- 4. TRY TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE
Trying to cope with Bereavement
When someone dear to you dies, it feels like your whole world has come to an end. If they have an illness where they lose weight and suffer, the daily distress of seeing that can be overwhelming, and at times you may wish for them to be released from their distress. However, once they are gone, the finality of it, especially if you were caring for them, hits you, and you find yourself wishing them back at a stage before they were ill, in the good times.
In the case of Sudden Death
It is also very difficult to accept if someone dear dies suddenly, such as in a heart attack or stroke. One minute they were there, and then they were gone. You wish there had been time to say goodbye to them, and tell them how much you cared before death cruelly struck and took them away from you.
In my case, my husband went to work, and I never saw him again, because he died instantly from a blood clot. When I was told, I could not comprehend it, and it wasn’t until I actually saw him in the chapel of rest, that I could believe this was true. But this was partly because he was only 53, and had appeared to be fit and strong, and also partly because I didn’t want to believe such horrendous news.
My Family helped
My children were so supportive, my son even moved in with me for a while so I wouldn’t be alone, but there comes a time when you have to rebuild your life, and move on, even though it takes the pain in your heart so much longer to ease.
It is so easy to keep wishing that person back, and keep saying " if only." After all, your life has just been turned upsidedown, and will never be the same again.
HERE ARE SOME OF MY TIPS WHICH I HOPE WILL HELP
You may be feeling like death inside, but smiling when you are out somehow helps because other people respond in a positive way. This does not mean you are not allowed any tears. Tears are a huge release, whether when you are alone, or with other people you love. Tears help the grieving process, and once you are through that, you can begin to pick up your life again.
2. GET A HOBBY OR INTEREST
Having a hobby or joining a club can keep your mind focused on something else. In the beginning, your heart will not be in it, but eventually it will really help you. Likewise, keeping busy in your working life is equally therapeutic.
3. ACCEPT INVITATIONS FROM FRIENDS
You may feel you want to hide away from everyone, but accepting kind invitations from friends will divert your mind from your misery, if only for a short while, and they will feel as if their support is appreciated because they care about you.
4. TRY TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE
That may sound strange, but a lady I know, who lost her husband, actually took a job in a charity shop, which helped her a lot. There are people in the community who need support, like pensioners whose families have forgotten about them. Sometimes seeing what others have to put up with makes us all view our own life in a different way, because if you have love around you, you will get through it. But to have love, we must give love, especially when other members of the family are also grieving, because we don’t have the monopoly on grief.
To anyone out there who is trying to cope with such heartbreak, I do hope this helps, and you will soon feel ready to rebuild your life.