The effect of modern life on relationships

deepa venkitesh By deepa venkitesh, 11th May 2011 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/llxmkw27/
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Modern life has changed the face of family life. People part for silly reasons. They do not value the relationships and stress more on their interests and comforts. Vices like ego, anger and selfishness are causing people to part ways more than ever before.

Modern life and family bonds

Marriage is a relationship between two people who love and trust each other. People marry to have a life long partnership with a person. They hope to share their life, their house, belongings and live together for many years till death parts. Marriage vows stresses on such words to seal the relationships between partners in a marriage.

In the modern era, people take each other for granted. They are engrossed in increasing their material possessions and become financially secure. In the race to do so, people forget to tend to their relationships and make it secure. In earlier ages, women were solely dependent on their husbands. They we not given a status of ‘equal’ and thus bore grudges or abuse. Women of the modern age are educated and financially independent. They will not be ready to suffer any ill treatment.

Divorce rates are increasing even in developing countries at a fast rate. People opt for divorce even when children are involved. They do not reconsider their decisions. There are various reasons for this. Partners are less tolerant. The stress of modern life, the fast pace, high expectations, impatience, egoism, anger, emotional insecurity etc; are the common causes for divorce.

Modern life has changed the traditional way of living drastically. A house usually had a plump mother who cooked meals to feed her large family. The men folk used to work hard in the fields and return home happily. The modern life has changed the scenes completely. The mother and father work, often in different shifts. The children interact more with their friends and less with parents. Family meal times are rare. Evening prayers have given way to television shows. This lack of coordination has led to the disintegration of the family.

Vices like ego, anger, selfishness, greed and impatience also have contributed to estrangement. Selfless love which marked the signs of a happy married life is no longer present. Partners are not willing to adjust and compromise. They prefer to part ways than give up their desires or way of life.

People do not realize that their children imbibe the parent’s attitudes and behavior. The life of the children and a care free childhood is being denied to children of divorced parents. Relocation has a great impact on children’s life emotionally. Changing schools and losing old friends is not acceptable to most children. The partners can try to reconsider divorce decisions if children are involved in order to provide emotional security to children during growing up years.

Married life may be successful if partners love each other, share unselfishly, adjust to a certain level and avoid unsuccessful arguments and fights. Arguments are never won because the people who argue will be left more convinced of their own strong points rather than accede. People who are married for a long time have withstood the trials of life by trusting, loving their partners and being patient enough to give life one more chance.

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Anger, Argument, Children, Divorce, Ego, Fights, Happy, Home, Marriage, Relationships, Sort Out

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I am a post graduate in sociology and public relations. I write articles and poems.

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author avatar Greenfaol
15th May 2011 (#)

Good article and I do agree with a lot of what you say. However, things were not great for everyone in old times. Many people were forced to marry for the sake of their families, people lived shorter lifespans and illnesses rarely had cures.
Another point would be that too many people marry very quickly, realise they really aren't in love and divorce or have an annulment. It is very easy to marry but being in a relationship is just too much work for some people (sadly).
Great read :D

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author avatar deepa venkitesh
17th May 2011 (#)

you are cent percent right

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author avatar Denise O
21st May 2011 (#)

I agree with both you and green, having a wonderful marriage, takes a lot of hard work. I do have to say though, I see no problem with arguing, as long as that is not all that you do and it is not done in a mean and spiteful way. It can actually help blow off a bit of steam. Nice read, thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar deepa venkitesh
21st May 2011 (#)

thanks , dear.

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author avatar lucia anna
28th May 2011 (#)

Excellent article

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author avatar deepa venkitesh
28th May 2011 (#)

thank you dear.

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author avatar Anonymus
9th Feb 2013 (#)

What will be your say on below mentioned statement: After marriage if woman have to leave her parents, then why cant men stay without there parents? Is it right comparing like this?

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author avatar Akhil sabu
3rd Dec 2014 (#)

Wonderful article it help me to make lovely family

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