The Dad Who Shot His Daughter's Laptop

Jules, The CowboyStarred Page By Jules, The Cowboy, 14th Feb 2012 | Follow this author | RSS Feed | Short URL http://nut.bz/3vnolk9t/
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Children's complaints about having to do chores can be headache to parents. Children should be assigned chores appropriate for their age and ability level.

Is it reasonable to punish?

What about for teenagers? It's a real challenge to parents to discipline their teenage children. Teenagers seek independence but can’t exist by themselves. Parents are there to support the children from infancy to young adulthood though it is a challenging task to go through the levels of disciplining.

With complaints on finishing chores and the challenge of disciplining teenagers, is it justifiable to punish them?

Tommy Jordan:The Dad Who Shot Her Daughter's Laptop

Spanking? Grounding? Yelling? These sounds like old-fashioned methods of punishment if you've heard about Tommy Jordan, the Albemarle, North Carolina dad who shot his daughter's laptop.

Daughter's Facebook wall post versus Dad's YouTube video

Who could imagine the Internet being used as medium for parenting? Yes, parenting can be done online. We just had the recent “Daughter's Facebook wall post versus dad's YouTube video.”

Was Jordan’s way appropriate and justifiable? Would shooting your kid's laptop work? As of this posting, the video which runs for 8 minutes and 22 seconds already gained 23,112,180 views with 253,861 likes and 22,784 dislikes. Considering the figures, 91.76% of those who viewed it liked the idea. The video entitled “Facebook Parenting: For the troubled teen” received kudos and criticisms.

It takes a heart to be a father

It is still way better to just take away the laptop than shooting it. There are a lot of constructive alternatives to punishment. An intimate parent-child talk could have been done. Empathy for a child's feelings could have been shown. Win-win solution could have been found. There is no such thing as perfect way to parenting as children themselves are variable. Whatever works should be pursued but in a gentle way. Choosing to do the less between two evils is still evil. Give your child time to change and spend a little of your time with his time. Try as much as possible to prevent him from making bad decisions that could lead to bad behavior. Guide your child. Don’t miss positive reinforcement when he went the right way. It takes a heart to be a father.


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author avatar Jules, The Cowboy
15th Feb 2012 (#)

oh no! had to change the title to "The Dad Who Shot His Daughters LAptop"

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author avatar Jerry Walch
15th Feb 2012 (#)

Yeah, Cowboy, the title had me going too! Good article,nonetheless.

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author avatar Buzz
15th Feb 2012 (#)

Great parenting article, my Kabz, on raising a child amidst the internet, let alone on your extended family..lol (biro lang!)

Well-deserved STAR! Yes!

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author avatar Songbird B
15th Feb 2012 (#)

This was quite some Star page Cowboy! How is it some kids have got so disrespectful in today's modern world? We all moaned when we had chores to do in the house, but it gave you good grounding for your own life outside the parental home. I don't know if I quite agree with what Tommy Jordon did, but but I can see why he did it if he was at the end of his tether.. Excellent article..

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author avatar Sheila Newton
15th Feb 2012 (#)

This is so fantastic. What a gread read.
I see you're really getting into the Star Page zone, Mr Cowboy. Keep up the fabulous work.
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Still working below par with this bad back - so if I don't comment on all your lovely pages, please forgive me??

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author avatar Denise O
15th Feb 2012 (#)

Great page cowboy. What a idiotic father. Nice read. Congrats on the star page, it is well deserved. As always, thank you for sharing.:)

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author avatar Manimage
17th Feb 2012 (#)

Really kids are disrespectful nowadays and have to guide them while still young from the age of 5 maybe and upwards...thanks for sharing

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author avatar Val Mills
17th Feb 2012 (#)

I haven't seen the video but did see a clip of it on TV, the actual shooting. It seems to me communications in this family broke doen long before the laptop shooting. Maybe it is a leson to all to keep that communication and family discussion going.

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author avatar ittech
18th Feb 2012 (#)

interesting writing again . Thnx for sharing .

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author avatar ittech
18th Feb 2012 (#)

interesting writing again . Thnx for sharing .

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author avatar ppruel
18th Feb 2012 (#)

Very good writing dude. Congrats not only here but also at RedGage - this article was featured there...

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
19th Feb 2012 (#)

Very interesting, I don't blame the father for his actions. Most of all, I think he is very hurt by his daughter's attitude. He obviously loves her but she has shown such disrespect to him. When I gave my daughter a car, I stole it back!

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
21st Feb 2012 (#)

Testing - I was trying to make a comment without success.

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
21st Feb 2012 (#)

I have saved this space for you, Siva

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author avatar Ivyevelyn, R.S.A.
21st Feb 2012 (#)

Thank you, cowboy. I should have said earlier that you have written a very interesting page. I appreciate your well-written account of this event, along with the pictures.

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author avatar Sivaramakrishnan A
22nd Feb 2012 (#)

Thanks cowboy for bringing this up ; what every parent goes through but let us not forget we were also teenagers once!
I feel there could have been other issues and Jordan just blew up! There are now holes not only in the laptop but also in the pocket now!
Teenagers are in a twilight zone - neither children nor adults. They need patience. When the parents set a good example, children do observe but will not appreciate in words and deeds; they go through a phase when they hate their own parents!
Extreme - is the only reaction I can think of, borne out of frustration, of course - but let it be a learning process for everyone - how to avoid things coming to such a pass! siva

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