Teaching Learning Process and Parenting Style
Parenting style have great effect on children's mental and motivation. Unfortunately, it will have a red line with teaching-learning process in their school life.
A Red Line
This writing is a result of a long observation on some students in my math class at my own course institution. Behaviors and habits of students in teaching and learning process are observed in order to know the red line between behaviors and habits pattern and its parenting style. Off course, it is not a scientific report, but it is obviously only an effort to find out "why are there many students not good enough in math examination and some got satisfied result?"
I realized, in general, many earlier students are afraid with math lesson. They thought that, math is like a monster or ghost. A student who just came to my class this afternoon, he is a new student of my institution, felt uneasy and stressed for his first math session. I could catch the situation. So, I changed my teaching technique in order to make him relaxed. All students in my class at that time could enjoy the game I gave.
Let me tell you frankly, what is the teaching method used in my class. For years, I've been working with an "active teaching-learning process" in my math classes. In supporting the method, I develop some games for each sub-subject of math lesson. The games usually can create a relax situation and build an active teaching-learning process. In this case, all students will be involved in the certain game and motivate all students for participating in it. During the game, teacher will build an understanding of the students on specific sub-subject. There after, some math practices will be given as a follow up of the game.
Parenting style has great influences in building kids' mental and motivation. Color of our kids is a mirror of the parenting style we choose. There are three kinds of parenting styles defined by some psychologists such as: authoritarian, permissive, or democratic.
Authoritarian parents don't explain why they want their children to do things. If a child questions a rule or command, the parent might answer, "Because I said so." Parents tend to focus on bad behavior, rather than positive behavior, and children are scolded or punished, often harshly, for not following the rules. Children with authoritarian parents usually do not learn to think for themselves and understand why the parent is requiring certain behaviors. Children with this parenting style also tend to passively accept whatever people tell them without asking the reason. In teaching-learning process, they generally tend to be passive students, do not have their own opinion, and do not have willing to find out detailed answers. Their creativity is lower.
Permissive parents give their children as many choices as possible, even when the child is not capable of making good choices. They tend to accept whatever their child's behavior, good or bad, and make no comment about whether it is beneficial or not. They will feel unable to change misbehavior, or they rather choose not to get involved. In this case, permissive parents used to give up most control on their children. Their children born to be spoiled children. In teaching-learning process, many students with permissive parents will have strong willing to control their friends. During game session, they usually do not want to loose any thing. They give up easily when they face difficulties.
Democratic parents help children learn to be responsible for themselves and to think about the consequences of their behavior. Parents do this by providing clear, reasonable expectations for their children and explanations for why they expect their children to behave in a particular manner. They monitor their children's behavior to make sure that they follow the rules and expectations. During teaching and learning process, children with democratic parents will have higher motivation in learning. They might questions things they do not understand actively. They might accept differences of behavior and attitudes amongst their friends. They can adjust all situation and will never give up easily. Their high motivation tend to lead them get high score in their subjects.